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To feel put out by being called weird?

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Fruitflylady · 01/07/2015 12:42

First post here so please be kind.

My son's friend came up to me after school yesterday and told me that his mum had said that I was weird! I was a bit taken aback at the time so I didn't say anything to him or his mum (I don't think she overheard this), but I have been feeling a bit wounded ever since and don't know whether to say anything to the mum or just try and forget about it.

What would you do?

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flimflamflarnfilth · 02/07/2015 09:34

I don't know where it comes from but I heard that "the only normal people are the ones you don't know very well."
I'm often singled out for being different. Can't say that it's ever really bothered me so far. My 6yo DSS often takes great delight in telling me how weird I am.

MrsBobDylan · 02/07/2015 09:43

I had two uni friends who told me when they first met me they thought I was really weird. As we'd been friends for three years by then it didn't matter but I remember feeling surprised I would come across in that way. I know I still am a bit weird but that dh prizes this quality in me, which in turn probably makes him a bit weird.

UsedtobeFeckless · 02/07/2015 09:51

Embrace the title!

I'm weird, my parents are weird, DP is weird, my brother and sister are weird, my nephews are weird, our DSs are very weird and we all have rich and fullfilling lives and lots of weird friends ... NormoBitchMum is probably jealous because you have a personality

ShipShapeAhoy · 02/07/2015 10:02

If his mum really did call you weird it could have been as way to explain why your ds is allowed to do something hers isn't (or something her ds says yours can do, even if that isn't true).

Say for example your ds has a later bed time:

'Muuuum, fruitfly lets her ds stay up all night, why can't I?'
'Because I said so.'
'But fruitfly let's her ds!'
'Fruitfly is weird.'

ShipShapeAhoy · 02/07/2015 10:02

Lets*

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 02/07/2015 10:10

3 pancakes sadwiched together is definitely called a PancakeWidge!

i hope you are ok fruitflylady and embracing your weirdness

peguin

Iliveinalighthousewith2friendl · 02/07/2015 10:25

Now I have an excellent sense of humour, but, This thread is being turned into a joke and it is not funny.
No op ynbu, and, No I would not like to called weird, and I especially would not want some kid coming up to me and saying. "My mum thinks you're weird". Talk about wanting the ground to swallow you up,
I would want to go over and say something, but how can you without people thinking you're a crank. I think I'd just be cold with the mother. Yes no answers, pretending I was texting when I saw here, but that's just me. Not advising or dis-advising you do that.
. Sorry you were upset

SophieJenkins · 02/07/2015 10:28

Ds2 got called weird for the first time at school yesterday.

Poor little thing. It was the same boy who has a go at him constantly and I suspect fails to understand the complex being that is ds2, so his reaction is to attack him for no good reason.

It reminds me of being called weird throughout my childhood, mainly by arseholes - I seriously think some adults (and children) are just not bright enough to understand that people can be different to one another and it not be 'wrong'.

I do think mainly though that it is parents who comment on this and their children just copy them. You can see the children whose parents are obviously very prejudiced against anyone a bit 'different' and hopw this attitude passes down.

it's a shame really.

I tell ds to ignore it as it doesn't matter what someone like that thinks, he was going along this route anyway which is a good thing.

Mimigolightly · 02/07/2015 10:31

I'd be proud! I saw a vest in Spitalfields the other day that said "Normal people make me nervous" !!

Iliveinalighthousewith2friendl · 02/07/2015 10:32

Indeed Sophie, and. I do think some parents do encourage bullying.
I've heard them talk on their little cliques too many times.
Oh did you see the state of that kid ect ect. These are grown women, but honestly that act about 11 years old at times, well no actually the few 11 year olds I know don't behave like thAt

Sazzle41 · 02/07/2015 10:49

Well at least you are forewarned she is a judgemental toxic person. Who made her the decision maker on what is normal and what is weird. Avoid, avoid, avoid. It says more about her than it does about you - she is probably jealous of something about you and a a conjured up put down makes her feel better about hersef - IME.

Volenflo · 02/07/2015 11:16

5 year olds talk a lot of shit

mellicauli · 02/07/2015 13:18

One of my son's friend told me that his Dad was dead. Another told me that he got up in the middle of the night and talked to children in Africa on the internet. When I was young I once told someone I was vegetarian because I thought it sounded good. The words of children to be interpreted and not always taken literally.

He might have said something like " Well Fruitflylady serves ketchup with macaroni cheese", to which she replied "Well, that's just weird." Next day, he goes up to you and says My Mum says you're weird..

bumbleymummy · 02/07/2015 13:25

Yy to children often getting things from their parents.

It could all be innocent as millicauli says but it's possible that something has been said. DS was given a very hard time at school a few years ago and I know the parents weren't helping. The children have (mostly) all moved on from it now and made friends but I saw some of the parents' true colours and I won't forget that easily.

nikolai · 02/07/2015 22:04

I would be terribly offended to be accused of being normal..... Weird is where I'm at

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