To feel put out by being called weird?

[Fruitflylady]

First post here so please be kind.

My son's friend came up to me after school yesterday and told me that his mum had said that I was weird! I was a bit taken aback at the time so I didn't say anything to him or his mum (I don't think she overheard this), but I have been feeling a bit wounded ever since and don't know whether to say anything to the mum or just try and forget about it.

What would you do?

it's not meant as a compliment, is it? That's the problem. I'd be mildly peeved. And I'm as weird as they come.

Yes it often really means "you're not exactly like me in ways I don't really understand and I find that threatening, so I'll make you feel like the odd one out."

Oh it does mean "not like me" everybody is weird to someone though

Im not very clever i am sure im somebodies weird infact i overheard a neighbour say it im weird because i didnt want to gossip

eh, embrace the weird!

I'm weird, i'm good with that ;)

just to make a point, i have been told by my children that 'x' says you're weird.

and i reply.

Thats because i am weird! And thats fine, i like being weird, because if everyone was 'normal' and the same it'd be boring! Its ok to be different and never be afraid to love who you are and what you do!

(my weird credentials are that i'm a pagan goth/rocker/hippy who is also intelligent and a complete geek/dork/nerd)

Yes Asorcerer the op is BU embrace the weird, it's much better than being boring

Ohhh...we had this...a boy in ds2's class (y3) told ds that his mum 'doesn't like your mum', which was all part of a campaign against ds2 who was the new boy and a bit too clever.

His mum has never even seen me let alone met me. I caught sight of her shortly after for the first time, and decided based solely on appearance that I was quite pleased if she didn't like me

Ignore it

I've been called weird many times it doesn't bother me.

people think I'm weird because I won't drink out of other people's glasses so silly things really

We live 50% of the time in a little french village and the locals KNOW I'm weird because I don't spray my front garden with pesticides or have it in a straight line,manicured to within an inch of its life.

We also feed the stray cats with good food (hence we get a lot of canine and feline visitors!) Oh and I actually walk the dog I look after occasionally on a lead .

I'd write it off as a mistake at that age. Half overheard stuff he probably didn't understand. Might not even have been about you.

An old colleague of mine once asked me, with a completely serious face and a fucking head tilt "would you like to be normal, do you think?"

I was delighted.

Weirds not so bad when you think of all the things people do say behind closed doors.

Ds (5) once grassed me up to another parent and infront of other parents and their teacher quite spectacularly.

He said rather loudly to his teacher that I thought 'x's mummy was an idiot, at which point the teacher and I blushed and she gushed to DS to not be silly I'm sure you're mummy doesn't think that. At this point DS began to tell the story in all it's glory about why I thought she was an idiot and what I said

lesson learned, be careful what you say in earshot, but as I said their are worse things to be called than weird. I'm pretty sure 'x's mummy had some to say about me

He's 4 and you took him at his word?

Bit unfair on the mum, can't imagine she said it like that.

I wouldn't care. Embrace the weirdness I say. There are worse things to be

Tell him you have two more sisters just as weird.
Then vanish.

I was called weird at school and frequently ever since. I'm in my mid 30s now and new people i meet don't take long to come to the conclusion that I'm a bit weird and tell me so.

I'm very happy with that. Much rather be weird than boring and forgettable.

Chill out. I had one of DD's friends mum pick her up from our house and said 'xxx tells me your a neurologist'.

Um no, and nothing at all like that! And this was when they were 12.

I'm a bit weird but I prefer other people don't let on they know too often.

I'd say it is quite possible though they had a 5yr old chat at school (I've seen this age miscommunicate information before) and friend said something to his Mum like

"But Fruitflylady gives Fruitflychild 2 pancakes with a pancake inbetween for packed lunch" (this example is one recently provided by my DC - not sure if this is really what was in packed lunch - who knows)

friends mum "that's a weird lunch"

your son's friend to you "my mum says your weird"

I definitely wouldn't say anything to her.

Hellochicken I'm trying to work out what 2 pancakes with a pancake in between would be called' a pancake sandwich? Or maybe it was a custard cream biscuit that was round not square I've never posted a biscuit before !

having been told this a fair bit in my life, my response "thank you, i try my hardest"

Brilliant Moss clip Precious

It's highly probable that the nuance in this has been completely misinterpreted by small boy in question. At 5 things can sound quite literal.

I like weird though. I probably am weird to a lot of people. Weird to me = original, non mainstream. A compliment in my book