To be upset by this?

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Would you be upset if you overheard DP talking to his friend and as girl drove past say "get your tits out for the boys" then go on to say "imagine if they were really saggy like old granny tits"
I lost 6 stone a few years ago and have had one baby and am pregnant with second baby now so my boobs are rather droopy so it did hurt a bit to hear as he always tells me "you're the only one for me, I love you the way you are, you do it for me" etc. I haven't mentioned it to him but it has upset me, I'm really body conscious already and now I feel 10 times worst and dread undressing in front of him, it took ages for me to feel comfortable in the first place. I've always trusted him but now I know he says stuff like that when I'm not around it's put some doubt in my mind too.

I'd be disgustedif I heard anything like that from my DH

I'd lose all respect for my DH.

It's not immediate LTB worthy but honestly, I'd wonder what I ever saw in him.

He sounds very juvenile. And a massive prick, tbh.
How sad do you have to be to shout things at women? I often say to my dh if I've had an experience like that "I mean, what do they expect you to say? Ohhh yes big boy, you're sooo hot, let me come over there and show you what I've got?" Do they expect you to be flattered? Happy?

I'm hoping that you are both very young and he is a bit insecure (and immature) you need to tell him what you've heard.
And that 99.999999% of women (and men) would think he was an absolute dickhead for saying things like that to people.

I would also be disgusted if my partner thought it was OK to say things like that and behave like a teenager. Seriously grow up.

I would feel the same as you too in regards to my body. I have had three children and breastfeed the last one till he was 2 so my breasts have really been through the mill. I am conscious of them and to hear my partner make a comment like that I would struggle not to take it personally.

He said 'get your tits out' ? That would finish any respect I had for him.

I am sure he loves you as you are.
but he needs to grow the fck up.
on the other hand no excuses but men say silly things when they are with other men. they like to make them selves look clever and alpha.

and don't worry sweetie men's balls look a lot worse than woman's boobies when they hit a certain age and that's without giving birth

I would really be disgusted and disappointed if dh said anything like that. And this crap about that's how men talk is just a load of nonsense. I have overhead my dh, Db and male friends speak and I can say this is definitely not how decent men speak.
I would be very angry tbh.

I would be stunned and terribly hurt.

on all honesty it sounds like something 13 year old boys say when they are showing off. I feel that this behaviour should be challenged - you should tell him you heard it and let him know how it makes you feel. Gauge what kind of man he could be (rather than the boy he is currently acting like) by how he responds

We've spoken about it and he said that he's really sorry and that he just said it because he thought it was funny and for a laugh but that he can see why I would be hurt by it and that it was stupid and he was a knob for saying it. This is from a man who never ever apologises

For all of it, no I know I agree

Did he apologise for harassing the woman he said it to, or just for upsetting you? (glad he realises he was being a knobhead)

He didn't harass the woman, there was no way she could have heard him, he said it to his friend

He was a knob for saying it even if you had the perkiest tits in the world.

It's a knobbish thing to say in general.

This is not about you. It's not a "harmless" or "funny" thing to say that is only wrong because you were upset by it.

Of course I'm pissed off by it, but he's apologised and said he knows he's wrong and acted like a knob and shouldn't have said it, not much more he can do now

Is he sorry for saying it to a woman in the street, for saying things about tits that made you feel upset or sorry he got caught?

Does he realise how intimidating it is for men to catcall women?

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I would be more upset that he said anything like that about any woman. 'Get your tits out' is disgusting and woman hating bile. I think you are getting upset about the wrong thing. Best of luck with him, that's all I can say.

She wasn't intimidated, she didn't see or hear him. He shouldn't have said it but she wasn't affected in any way

This sort of behaviour creates a culture of intimidation and fear. This one time, this one woman may not have heard him but there will be other times and other women who have heard him (it's unlikely to just be this once that he's shouted like this) and others shout sexually aggressive comments at them. It's vile behaviour

That he felt it was acceptable behaviour says a lot about how he views women.

You were intimidated though OP, and you heard him.

I'd be very annoyed, particularly because my girls are showing the effects of losing a lot of weight in my mid 20s and it's incredibly sexist and disrespectful.