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AIBU to expect 14 yr old ds to piss in the loo and not all round it?!

96 replies

nigelslaterfan · 26/06/2015 23:51

I cleaned that loo so well that the landing didn't stink of wee; and tonight, there is piss behind the seat round the fixings of the seat....... Am I alone? Why can't he piss into the loo, oh have MERCY on me.
(sobbing in the park drinking gin from the bottle emoticon)

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Sparklingbrook · 27/06/2015 17:25

If they are at hand you get them to clean it up. If there are two of them they will each blame the other one. Hmm

Not sure what girls have to do with this but I don't have any girls so no idea about that or why it's different, if it is..

NotJustaPotforSoup · 27/06/2015 17:31

So what if they blame each other?! Let sibling policing sort that one out.

HagOtheNorth · 27/06/2015 17:31

' If there are two of them they will each blame the other one.'

If they are teenagers, then you split cleaning the bathroom between them, alternate days.
Didn't need to do that here, but washing up gets done on a rota.

Sparklingbrook · 27/06/2015 17:33

I currently don't have a problem with piss on the floor/seat. Grin

I seem to be getting a lecture on parenting all of a sudden. Confused

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 27/06/2015 17:35

I have a piss problem Grin, maybe I should heed the lecture.

Sparklingbrook · 27/06/2015 17:38

Hope you are taking notes Through. There seems to be the view it is a sign of wider problems to do with chores....

5madthings · 27/06/2015 17:39

Four boys here, 15, 12, 10 and 7. They have been taught to use toilet roll to wipe up any drips/splashes after they use the toilet.

eliphant · 27/06/2015 17:39

My DH does it very occasionally too, and so do my daughters sometimes leaving accidental drop or two on the seat when they get up. My eldest sometimes doesn't wipe and it irritates me a little if I find out - I do if she has just gone to the bathroom and didn't flush and I don't see a paper in there. I don't mind cleaning it up and I have developed a sort of automatic habit to always check the seat for pee before sitting. I do sometimes moan about it a bit to them if I find myself having to clean the seat of pee for more than 2 days in a row, then the problem stops... it can start again though, and if that happens, I rinse and repeat.

HagOtheNorth · 27/06/2015 17:40

Sorry Sparking, didn't mean it to sound like a primary teacher.
But yes, blaming each other for a problem is something all and every combination of siblings seem to do. So that's what I did if there was no individual culprit.
I don't like housework, or cleaning. I like reading, cooking and gardening.
So if I'm in a house with other members, I expect them to help out, progressing through the years to the point where the load is equally shared by all the adults.
If I adored my womanly duties, I probably wouldn't mind as much.

Volenflo · 27/06/2015 17:41

Damn it, my son is nearly 5 and I was hoping he would grow out of it by then...

reni1 · 27/06/2015 18:25

Girls come into this because most people teach very young girls not to leave a mess, but accept the same mess in boys into teenage hood and beyond. We are two of each gender in the house and I remember well how badly boys aim when young. At 14 is not inability to aim, but lack of respect for the one cleaning it.

Sparklingbrook · 27/06/2015 18:31

Do they really reni? That's not the case amongst friends I have with DDs and DSs they don't want any of them to leave a mess.

BertrandRussell · 27/06/2015 18:32

I find the low expectstions people have of teenagers really really depressing.

Sparklingbrook · 27/06/2015 18:35

I am starting to feel the same and the generalisation about teen boys too BR.

reni1 · 27/06/2015 18:58

True, sparkling, I find the same in RL. This thread however had several people saying their bathrooms reek because of this. Some are disgusted, some more oh well, boys...

BertrandRussell · 27/06/2015 19:07

It's one of those threads which make me want to shout "Of COURSE a 14 year old boy is capable of peeing without missing and of cleaning it up if he does. Just don't put up with it!"

HagOtheNorth · 27/06/2015 19:41

There you go again, Bertrand, expecting the impossible and fighting that XY need to pee aimlessly and the XX imperative to clean up after everyone else.
Then complain about it.

Seaoftroubles · 27/06/2015 19:45

I had this with one of my boys when he was a teen, but only first thing in the morning...discovered it was because he wasn't wearing his glasses so his aim was skewed!

LegoComplex · 27/06/2015 19:48

oh god my 5yr old ds is terrible for weeing all over the wall by the loo! [crying face] i had to threaten skylanders withdrawal to get him to improve.

HagOtheNorth · 27/06/2015 19:48

And did he?

reni1 · 27/06/2015 20:19

Hear hear, Hag- although this particular XX is more likely to make the offending XY wear the pissy seat as a necklace than mopping up the mess Grin .

trashcanjunkie · 27/06/2015 20:52

I have enforced a 'sit to piss' policy at my house. Even if the aim is good, there's still backspray. I am not cleaning their fucking piss. It took a while, the dcs got it immediately, but Dp felt emasculated. So I said he'd have to clean the bog every single time. He now sits. I've got a sign up in the bathroom for any guests, and if men ask to use my toilet I say only if they agree to sit down. Some of them look at me and laugh, til they realise I'm deadly serious. They all sit now!

A1Mum · 27/06/2015 21:26

Maybe he should go back to sitting while urinating until he is more on target. No way of missing this way and it keeps you both happy.

Wh0dathunkit · 27/06/2015 21:55

Sitting to pee is the culprit of the pissy floors chez Thunkit. Something to do with angles and peeing between the ceramic & loo seat. Mr Thunkit has been told that this is the cause, and tries to remember not to pee sitting down, but it doesn't always work. Given that this situation only started when he moved in, it's certainly not me that's the culprit!

I wouldn't say that I go so far as to rub his nose in it, but the incidents always get mentioned, and he always apologises while taking the mat to be washed. I am gradually training him up - he lived in serviced accomodation for most of his adult life, and prior to meeting me, lived in a house that resembled something from Bottom. We are getting there :)

daisychicken · 28/06/2015 11:03

Trashcan how do you know they are sitting though? Did any stray wee splashes/puddles stop completely?

Our house has turned into a teenage warground (I honestly thought ds1 had had his teenage years early.. boy was I wrong....). Recent angry shouted words have included that we "treat him like a slave". We don't, I just expect everyone to take a share as I too like to have some free time to enjoy my interests (I don't mean they at almost 11 and 13 do an adult share but that they have some jobs as part of the overall work that needs to be done. DS1 cannot see that Dh and I do more than they do.) The thought of having to stand over them while they clean the bathroom (ds1 that is, ds2 enjoys that job Confused ) or to try and find some other solution (I AM seriously thinking of locking doors OR installing a camera..... Wink ) whilst undergoing yet another barrage of anger is not appealing. But I totally agree they ARE perfectly capable of using the toilet properly and they ARE perfectly capable to cleaning up after themselves. I guess in my house I could juggle jobs and insist they do the bathroom(s) and hopefully police themselves?

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