to think dual person 'full time' worker family households should never have become the norm?

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Was thinking about the other thread talking about tax credits etc.

Around 40 years ago, as a society we'd reached a point where one person working in a household was enough to support a young family.

Now we've ended up where it's pretty much required to have both working full time to be able to afford the same lifestyle - mainly due to the insane 'cost' of housing.

It would have been far better to have had both people in a couple working perhaps part time to allow engagement with the world of work, and also a healthier work/life balance.

Why did we end up like this? Was it all an orchestrated plan to keep the debt cycle going - after all, you can lend on two incomes now for a mortgage. Lovely jubbly for the debt pushers. Is that why the banks and governments encourage this?

I dunno, but I do yearn for a better way to deal with the problems we're having now then everyone demonising each other.

namechange - you can't get a more obvious external locus of control than a God who tells you how to lead your life, can you?

Not sure why you find the prospect of mental illness that funny rabbit
An internal Locus of control is just that - it is your way of looking at the world nothing to do with controlling it or other people.

Well Im a lifelong Atheist so I have no idea- its such an alien concept to me.

Or, I guess another way of putting it is that I feel I could adapt to significant change in my environment and accept that things can't always go exactly the way I want, and there is normally something positive to be gained from every experience, but there may come a point when I do feel that the change is being inflicted on me unnecessarily and in a harmful way by entities which have no interest in me or my life and no intention of listening to me. Which would quite effectively externalise my locus of control!

Or maybe, fighting against a perceived malign external influence rather than believing it to be something outside your control is an example of intense internal locus of control?... Maybe it would be more helpful to talk about optimism and pessimism.

Yanbu OP. One earner one SAH or both parents PT would be better for many people. However governments would always prefer both parents in FT work and third party childcare to gain more tax. I also cynically think the government would not want people to have more time on their hands