'Breastfeeding is disgusting'

[startwig1982]

Two people I know, one a friend and the other more of an acquaintance, were having this conversation this evening.
Basically the friend said she was uncomfortable seeing mothers breastfeeding and later said to me, either do it in the toilet or use a bottle.
The acquaintance went as far as saying it's the same as someone 'doing a shit in the middle of the restaurant'! She was so provocative and rude and when I said that I feed my dd out and about and you can't see anything, she said it's disgusting and she would have to say something.
So here's the AIBU: we are all performing at an event in about 3/4 weeks. Wibu to ask my DH to bring my dd to the rehearsal so I can sit and provoke openly feed her? I'm so enraged by their conversation that I feel the need to change at least my friend's mind.

Ugly I wonder how you would feel if someone threw a cover over your head and made you have your next meal under there lest you should offend anyone's delicate sensibilities?

I did not say it was sexual at all and I did not say I didn't agree with it.

I breastfed for 6 months. By the end of it, I was a pro and could do it v discretely. When I first started, I couldn't do it without stripping to the waist. I've been naked in public MANY times (lots of them sober!) but I used to cringe when I fed, and try and time the feeds so I didn't have to strip in public (and then the first time I had to, and it was in London and facing a massive wall of glass, facing the river, very central, very public).

I HATE cloths over babies. I think it's hideous. Not nice for the baby! I hate this 'sanitized society' thing - we ALL eat. we all fart and shit and burp. I also pick my nose too.

Feed your baby how you choose and what works best for you, but when I read the OP, my instinct was to post saying "BF and simultaneously take a shit whilst you do it!"
Obv don't!

Ugly hasn't said they see it as sexual

Sorry iggi, I did mean that like a scarf over.

I'm reasonably sure I displayed more boobflesh in my bikini wearing days than when breastfeeding.

Not everybody is comfortable with bf, however the comments your friends made were wrong, especially when surely they knew you'd had a baby so you would be possibly bfing?
I will never bf my future children, however i would always stand up for any friends bfinG.
Though this comment always annoys me

"Maybe because it's the way our species should be feeding babies? It's the way nature intended, you know?"

Not all women can bf, not all women want to for certain reasons.
Should be? Aslong as the baby is happy fed and loved isn't that the most important thing?

In the 15th century wearing a bikini would of been seen as immoral but breast feeding normal now it's the other way around.
I don't understand why some of you are acting oblivious to the point and get upset because i stated society has sexualised the breast. This is common sense living in a modern world.

Well, you're ignoring the point that most people show more breast in a swimsuit than when breastfeeding, and also wondering why you feel that, because women have been hypersexualised, breastfeeding mothers and their babies should be the ones to have to modify their behaviour.

What do you think will happen if someone sees a glimpse of breast that makes covering up 'common sense'?

Again I did not say i found it sexual.

Ugly, if not sexual nor acceptable to you, can you say why you find it uncomfortable/unacceptable/disgusting to catch a glimpse of a breast when a mother is feeding her baby?

i don't think there is anything wrong with breast feeding, I do however think women should cover when doing it.

Do you? That's a pity. It must make being around normal women normally feeding their normally hungry babies rather awkward for you.

No - you said society did, and suggested it was a recent thing (I'd disagree, plenty of evidence that breasts have been seen as sexual for centuries).

However, you haven't answered why, given recent over-sexualisation (if you like) of breasts, you feel breastfeeding women and their babies should modify their behaviour?

And what do you think will happen if someone sees a glimpse of breast that makes covering up 'common sense'?

Love shiteforbrains pictures. What a gorgeous baby .

You know what I hate? Khaki. Foul colour. Cross between decaying pus green with a bit of rotting leaf brown. Just foul. Associated with the army, too. Death, in other words! Wars, invasions. Not my fault that I have those associations, I mean, it's just factual.

I don't think people should wear khaki. I think they should have respect for those of us who don't feel comfortable with it. I mean, I'm not saying they can't own anything khaki at all, if that's what they want to do, but why can't they just keep it indoors? Or cover it up with a nice red or blue coat or something?

People just don't have any respect for the needs of others these days.

Ladies moderate your behaviour!

Don't inflame men by dressing immodestly.

Don't inflame anybody by breastfeeding in public without covering your self.

Sounds familiar bollocks to me.

Ugly, have you breastfed? It's really bloody hard to feed and put a cover over baby, especially when you're out and about. Plus they get warm, and flustered, and you can't see what you're doing.

I'm new to all of this as DD is only a month old, but I've happily fed out and about, and you really can't see much at all. Vest down, top up, so most of torso is covered. Then it's just a case of fighting nipple out of bra and into hungry baby's mouth.

In fact, this has reminded me - do you remember the woman who was asked to cover up in Claridges? The cover just made it way more obvious!

A family friend came round unannounced 3 days after I gave birth, and proceeded to make vomiting noises when I breastfed my baby in front of her.

She's not welcome in my house anymore - I suggest you treat your "friends" in the same way!

Anyobr who thinks it's disgusting is an idiot. It's milk. Just milk.

I'd whip out a boob and squirt milk in her eye, but thats just me I breastfed my three children successfully till they were one. My youngest child is now two and I miss it and wish I had carried on longer people can feed their babies however they choose, it's no one else's business.

You could send them this link: the law

And warn them you intend to breastfeed at the event so they might want to stay away if it offends them.

I was embarrassed to see people feed before I had DD as I'd just never seen it (although I knew that was my problem and would never have said a word.). Normalising breastfeeding is a step towards making it easier for mums to choose what they want to do.

A woman I know, who doesn't yet have children, has said that when she has a baby she will express milk because she knows BM is best but she won't actually breast feed as that part is disgusting.

I would send her a brelfie and say stir on that!

Did your friend explain what she finds disgusting about it? It baffles me. She's presumably seen breasts before and anyway during breastfeeding you can see very little flesh. Unless she is a strict vegan, she presumably eats meat, eggs and cheese and drinks milk, so it is illogical to find the fact that the baby is drinking milk disgusting. So what is it?