DH no interest in kicks, pregnancy or birth

[mikado1]

I know it's probably common but I feel so disappointed that he has zero interest in anything to do with this pregnancy (2nd). The only time he's seen or felt a kick is when I actually ask him to, he replies 'Mmm' to my aches/pains/exhaustion-not sleeping past about 2am, and while I am reading up on and looking forward to the birth I feel my 'birthing partner' actually knows so little. I sometimes think how different it would be if he was pregnant!!!

And I'm sure plenty of partners are" fascinated and involved". Just not the ones on this thread.
There are many factors which influence reactions to pregnancy.
Lots based around fear or stress.
We lost 3 babies. My husband was terrified he would lose me and any baby I was pregnant with so emotionally detached from everything regarding subsequent pregnancies. Coping mechanisms.
Also, the strain for some partners of suddenly being the soley financially responsible and having 1/2/3 dependants is daunting.

Oh, am not suggesting for a moment that all men or women should be interested in pregnancies, but I don't buy the argument that no men are interested, or that male lack of interest because they aren't immediately involved, is the norm.

I was commuting internationally until I was 36 weeks pregnant, so hardly had a chance to think much about it, and I only saw DH intermittently at weekends, but he did far more reading than I did, and on the relatively rare occasions we actually crossed paths, he looked at me as if I was some kind of Vessel of the Divine.

Oh right, sorry, I misunderstood.

No, you're right, I think there are probably plenty of men who are interested, and plenty of men who aren't.

I wasn't even interested in my own pregnancy. I didn't find it amazing or exciting, it was just something to get through to get a child at the end.

Some women can become very boring during pregnancy, when it is the only thing that they can seem to think about, and they are so focused on themselves that they can't see anything else. 'How are you?' 'Waahh my life is so difficult as I'm gestating.'

What treaclesoda and Midnite said. My DH didn't come to any scans, appointments, didn't want to touch my bump etc and only changed his mind about being present at the birth 20 mins before I went down to theatre. I didn't have a problem with that because I wasn't that bothered myself....as long as our child came out OK, all was well. It's not an illness. If your Dh wants to get involved, great, if not then leave him alone til the baby's born. Btw - DH decided to stay for the birth and has been the most amazing, hands on dad I could have ever asked for since then.

Socalled, quite unusual circumstances there! Your dh didn't have the usual day to day grind of pregnancy. I don't know about others, but I MOAN constantly. "I feel sick, my back hurts, my hips hurt, I'm so fat, I'm so spotty, I feel sick" I think if my partner did that to me for several months I'd hate it, too.