To be annoyed at DH's faffing?

[GreenStriped]

DH is a faffer but only when it suits him. If he wants to go somewhere or do something that benefits him then he doesn't faff....

This morning he said he would do lunch for the DCs, which included going to the shop to get some bits for lunch. It got to 1.30 and he was still faffing around watching tv and I said that it the DCs would be getting hungry. So he then spent a further 20 minutes faffing around ready to go to the shop, doing things like re-laceing his trainers, and has finally gone now.

Anything that is of benefit to me and the DC, or isn't something that he wants to do particularly, is done with so much faffing around. We were going out last night and just as we were about to leave he decided to clean one of the car windows, then took ages wiping it rather than just a quick wipe.

It's really pissing me off!

[Dizzydragon]

I never noticed dh's faffing while the kids were little, as I'd be doing an impersonation of a blue arsed fly getting them ready to go out. Now he's taken early retirement, all he does is faff! He'll get up in the morning, say. I'm off out for a run in a minute, so I'll plan to do something while he's out. 4 hours later, and he's still planning to go out for a run. Oh, and yes, the pre-prandial toilet visit.

[bored1602]

Oh god I know this feeling far too well. Ask DP to help clean the flat with friends on their way round and decided this was the time to start assembling a flat pack desk!!

Yes, it needed doing. No, it definitely didn't need doing right then!! And of course I can't complain because as far as he's concerned he's being helpful

[Fatmomma99]

This posting earlier:

I silently decided this morning just never to ask him to do anything ever again. It's quicker, easier and tidier to do it myself. Because not only is there the faff, there's also the accompanying mess.

Because that's the point, isn't it. Deliberately or otherwise, our OHs are so crap we just do it all ourselves.

It's a ploy. And we fall for it.