To be annoyed at my mum snoring away on the couch

[HappyGoLuckyGirl]

Me and 2yo DS are staying at my mums in between moving houses. She has my nephew every weekend, either one or both nights.

Last night he stayed over. My DS woke about 7am and I could already hear my nephew chatting in my mums room. Anyway, I get me and DS up and nephew comes out and joins us in the living room. Mum stayed in bed and didn't get up for another 45mins and only when I asked her.

She's now snoring on the sofa, leaving me to look after him!

I don't necessarily mind looking after him as he's my nephew and him and DS love to play but it does add to my stress levels as he doesn't like how young my DS is and how differently he plays (nephew is 5) so gets angry and shouts at DS.

I think it's rude of her to tell my Sister that she's looking after him when she bloody isn't, I am! He is her responsibility when he's here and yet she's snoring away on the couch and I'm left to it.

I don't get to snore on the couch. She's basically assigned me as babysitter so she can continue sleeping. No one likes early mornings but that is something you have to put up with when you offer to have a 5yo overnight!

If he wasn't here she would have stayed in bed, which I can completely understand! But he is here and she should be entertaining him and looking after him instead of sleeping.

AIBU to be slightly pissed off?

[namechangefortoday543]

Gosh you are getting a very hard time on here OP !

I think it would entirely reasonable to suggest to your DM that as you had both DC this morning ,you can have some time off tomorrow.
I cant believe some of the comments on here


I once sat and ate breakfast at my DP house after being up ALL night, walking my DS around with my DS- DH sleep through it all.
My DF commented on my "poor DH " holding the baby while I selfishly ate
World war 3 erupted and he wished he had never spoken, I went ballistic and they were all very nice to me for the rest of the day.
Kindness and consideration works both ways

[reni1]

I'm amazed the 5yo needs much looking after, would have thought he can just tag along really. The 2yo is a different matter of course.

[namechangefortoday543]

Someone needs to be available to be the responsible adult whether the DC are 2 or 5 .
Im sure they will happily play but they still need supervision.

[londonrach]

Poor dm. Put blanket over her and let her sleep and look after your ds and nephew. Talk to dsis or dbrother as dm not coping. Suggest you cook a meal for dm today xxx

[drudgetrudy]

Is DM ill or something-she is 46 ffs many people have 5 year olds of their own at that age. Why wouldn't she be coping. assuming her health is normal?

[namechangefortoday543]

hahahhahhha ! at a 46 year being old !
Is this a joke thread ? poor dm WTAF ????

[namechangefortoday543]

Cook her a meal

I think people just want to have a pop at you OP

[HappyGoLuckyGirl]

Wish I'd have put on my hard hat after posting!

[namechangefortoday543]

Hope you got things sorted out with your DM- it makes sense to take turns to have a lie in .

[diddl]

"If I speak to my sister then my mum will go mad at me as she is very attached to my nephew and would be extremely angry if she couldn't have him with her."

But if she's falling asleep & not looking after him, he'd be better off visiting with your sister.

Could be that she's only falling asleep as you are there & she knows that she can.

He might not need entertaining at 5, but then he might as well not be there if she's asleep as she's not getting to see him, which surely is the point of him being there!