AIBU?
Regarding pregnancy announcement on FB?
Curtesytome · 19/06/2015 17:27
I'm 15+6 weeks pregnant with baby no.2, I've had several bleeds over the last 6 or so weeks and have been fraught with worry so have waited until yesterday to announce our news via FB.
DP has a DD from a previous relationship who is nearly 6 and together we have an almost 2 year old DD.
On my post I simply put "delighted to announce baby No.2 on its way, after a worrying few weeks all is well"
Someone has shown DSD "D"M my FB post and she has rang DP playing absolute holy hell because by saying baby no.2 I have not "acknowledged" DSD and acted as though she doesn't exist. . . . . . . Hmm yeah, after EVERYTHING I do for her but that's anther post entirely.
I had thought about putting baby no.3 but equally that would've sounded as though I thought myself a replacement for DSD's DM and wouldve caused even more of an uproar. She ,are my previous pregnancy difficult, telling DP that she'd heard rumours that he might not be the baby's father. She rang DP constantly in tears and even went around telling everybody that DD looked nothing like DP.
I seriously can't be arsed with another stressful pregnancy because of her.
DawnOfTheDoggers · 19/06/2015 17:31
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Strokethefurrywall · 19/06/2015 17:33
Fuck her and the horse she rode in on. You and your partner are expecting baby number 2.
Ask her if she would have reacted better if you'd said "baby number 3" in reference to DSD being "your" daughter. And then tell her to shut the fuck up. And don't edit your facebook post. What you post is your business, and unless it adversely affects your DSD then it is no business of hers.
diploddycus · 19/06/2015 17:53
It's true that it is your second baby and would have been untrue if you'd said baby 3. However in that situation I wouldn't have mentioned what number baby it is but maybe said "delighted to be expecting another baby" or "delighted to that DSD and DD are going to have a little brother or sister"
My DS is my first child and I'm expecting baby 2. DS, although he isn't biologically my husbands (I met husband when he was 1), is ChildFamilysurname. So when I announced my pregnancy I was going to say "expecting BabyFamilysurname number 2" but DS was never BabyFamilysurname number 1. He only took DH's name when he went to school.
IYSWIM.
HawkEyeTheNoo · 19/06/2015 18:03
I wouldn't give a flying foxtrot about anyone else's opinion! It's your second baby FFS! Dsd is six, way too young for fb so it's her mum that's pissed off! Who gives a toss?!?! Word it what ever way you like, you are not telling any lies and you should be delighted, not having this time tainted with "oh you could have worded better or been more thoughtful" bugger off with that! I have a dsd also and when I get the blue line I shall be announcing dc2, not 3 because that would be just odd! And I wouldn't give a foxtrot what the Ex thinks, who cares?! As long as the wee girl knows her daddy and DSM love her then nothing else matters, especially not a jealous ex!
LadyStark · 19/06/2015 18:24
Given that you hesitated yourself before posting on number 2/3 thing then it would have probably been wise to avoid phrasing it like that.
I don't think you are being unreasonable but I can understand why it might make DSD's Mum bristle a little. Particularly when unnecessary for you to use numbers at all.
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