DP comparing our wedding with an ffing festival

[Marilynz]

DP is obsessed with a certain big festival. I 'like' it but I see it for what it is - a long weekend in a field with a few good bands playing. Nothing magical for me but I go because I know how much he loves it.

This year, the line up is shit and the ONLY think I was looking forward to has cancelled last minute. Noting that a few of DP's arse kissed glasto friends friends were complaining about it on facebook - and he was agreeing with them - I admitted I was disappointed and said he only thing I was looking forward to has cancelled. He had a right face on over it and this was two nights ago.

Obviously he's holding a grudge because he's just said that my comment is the same as him saying he wasn't looking forward to our honeymoon as the weather forecast is shit and that was the only thing he was looking forward to.

How the FUCK is that the same thing? I'm livid. I told him I found that a bit offensive that he compares a music festival to our wedding plans and he decided that he finds my conversation boring and would not discuss the topic further. Absolute knob.

Would you say that your relationship is happy generally?

There is only one point to a partner - they improve your life because their love for you makes you happier, stronger and more confident. He doesn't, he sounds like an arse in every thread. You sound oddly fixated on marrying someone who is at best incompatible with you. You can leave and find a better person...

Agree with Cariadlet completely. You're missing the point of his comparison.

And Glastonbury is awesome with so much to do, you can't fail to have a good time :)

"I'm seriously starting to wonder why I bother."
Honestly OP, I think a few of us were wondering that a couple of threads ago ...

he thinks you are boring.
you think he is a knob.

it is possible that you are both correct. But why marry someone you think this little of? Same advice to him.

Not you AGAIN?!

If it were just this as a one off I'd think YABU TBH. DH very much wanted to get married but the wedding itself wasn't important to him he was happy for it to be organised the way my mother I wanted it and didn't show much interest and that was fine.

This festival is something he's really passionate about it and you're dismissing it. You don't have to share all of each other's passions but you should at least try to understand them.

But clearly it isn't a one off....

I remember you. You were told last time he sounded like an arse and to dump him.

Why do you bother? Are you that convinced life after him would be even worse?

From what I recall about the Glastonbury threads is that he is not simply a person who enjoys attending, he believes he is an expert on Glastonbury. No one else understands it or knows it as well as he does.

He hasn't just told you who he is. He's shouted at you through a megaphone.

Don't marry him. You'll set yourself up for a lifetime of frustration and disappointment if you do. You can't change him.

Op, this is the tool who turned you achieving you're degree into a subsequent argument about your 'honeymoon' and a music festival. What are this mans redeeming features exactly?

I don't remember many posters on here, but I knew this was you just by the thread title.

I wish I hadn't bothered to be honest. He's still an idiot, and so are you quite frankly for still listening to him.

Marry him. Don't marry him. Whatever.

But thread after thread about how you're always second to Glastonbury is so dull.

What do you want everyone to say op??! Your threads are all the same, either ditch him or get on with it!

I think it's okay for a bloke to not be creaming his kecks over his forthcoming wedding. The fact he creams his necks over Glastonbury is something you should've picked up on pretty early on in your relationship.

I would hope he only has one neck.

Does it not tell you something when you start a thread about a festival and half of MN knows, without needing to check, that it's you?
He doesn't care about you in the way you want him to. He doesn't prioritise your relationship over partying it up in a field with his buddies searching for his lost youth. He doesn't want to be a grown up about finances.
If you had a pound for every time MNers had said don't marry him then you could buy tickets to Glastonbury for the rest of his life.

I'm sure the op won't return to the thread, as usual.

Meh it's an overcrowded music festival that looks like a refugee camp after the first 12 hours.
If he thinks it's that great he is tripping or has lived a shelterd life.
You are destined to continue with these issues till you ditch him. Happy days!

He was making a comparison. You made a negative comment about something that is important to him, he compared it to the wedding which is important too.

But as I said on another of your threads, you are both a bit unreasonable. He loves this festival to obsessive proportions and you keep making crappy comments about it, even though it ends in an argument. I would be pissed off if dh kept putting down something I loved to do.