My Grandson.

[candygs]

My GS who is 3years 6 months is becoming overweight, he weighs 18kg and is 98cms tall. My DIL is a great and devoted mum, I am impressed by her aside from how she (and my son) feed my GS. It all started so well, he was EBF then at 6 months they introduced BLW, however in the last year or so his healthy diet seems to have been largely replaced by what I can only describe as rubbish, chips very frequently, sausages at least twice a week all smothered in ketchup, sugary cereals, cake, crisps etc etc. I get on well with my DIL, she is very confident in her parenting and has never asked for my advice over anything, I am not an overbearing MIL and have told her on many occasions how lovely a Mum I think she is, my GS is gorgeous, happy, chatty, interesting and interested, I adore him and am lucky to live fairly near and see him frequently.

My DIL is overweight by about 3 stone, her parents are both overweight, her only brother is overweight and his daughter of 13 years is overweight (resulting in health problems) My son is not overweight nor is anyone else on "our side" of the family.

My dilemma is whether I should say anything to my son, who I know would tell my DIL, I do not want to risk my good relationship with them but I feel worried that my wonderful little GS will face problems caused by obesity, I am concerned that my DIL sees it as normal because of her family who she is very close to.

So advise me please, would IBU to raise my concerns.

if the Dc is already being kept physically active - that very is very good.

Other than finding a nice way of gifting them some portion control/sized plates and perhaps finding way to encourage healthier meals - offering to cook - cooking classes in area - taking over healthier snacks - not sure there is much you can do.

It may be the child is going through a particularly trying food phase - and sausages and chips covered in sugary sauce is only thing he'll currently eat reliably. My youngest got fussy and I did worry she got chunky - though the scales said she was never actually overweight - but starting school seems to help with getting her to eat wider variety of stuff down to peer pressure I think.

Candy, I think you sound like a lovely MIL, though I am relieved you have decided to say nothing.

I am overweight. Largely it has come on due to medical issues and try as I might to do something about it, thyroid and other hormonal problems ensure that short of starving myself, which clearly isn't a great idea, nothing has much effect.

My weight is something that, although I like to think I am honest about it, I know I am very sensitive about it and won't discuss it except when strictly necessary (not denial, just been hurt and judged too many times in the past).

The idea of taking your grandson out for exercise (swimming, walking, soft play etc.) sounds like a great way forward. Many little boys would love that. Go walking, take a healthy picnic if weather permits.

Otherwise wait. It will be picked up by the health care professionals in time.

That makes it sound all too easy, Stopping.

You don't need someone else to point out that your own child is overweight, and then take steps to rectify it, surely.

You can either see it clearly for yourself without third party input (in which case you'd be doing something about it already) ... or you're completely oblivious, with your head in the sand, and will not take kindly to the 'interference'.