To think that 31 is too old to come home so drunk...

[13namechanger]

Dboyfriend (been together nearly a year) is 31 years old.
He goes out once a week with mates and gets absolutely bladdered. I hate this. He also drinks most nights although not drunk.
We don't live together, although he stays at my house most nights and has a key.
Tonight, he called me when he was out to say that he would be coming back after 1 more drink. It was obvious he was shitfaced so I told him not to come round. I have a toddler asleep upstairs and I don't want him in my house in that state.

He comes round anyway, let's himself in. He's literally paralytic, unable to stand etc. I told him to go to bed. He comes down after an hour covered in sick. I've just had to strip him, shower him, change the bed and bleach the bedroom wall as he threw up on it. He just can't control himself. Can't just go and have a nice time, has to drink to a ridiculous degree.
I'm beyond livid.
He's a grown up! A fucking grown up. I already have one baby, I don't need two.
WIBU to say stop drinking or we're done??

How are things going this morning, OP?

If it was occasionally I wouldnt think he was too old, not good but it happens.

Leaving the drinking to one side I would still be telling him that he can't come over at all if he has been out with friends. That would piss me off sick, or no sick. Spend the evening with friends but go over to girlfriend to be looked after cause work and disrupt everyone. No.

By all means come over, share the cooking and cleaning of a meal together. Put child to bed and share some wine over a movie.

Today: Lasagne
Tomorrow: Egg makhani, spiced roasted cauliflower, rice
Tuesday: Hunan spicy beef, rice
Wednesday: Yassa chicken, rice
Thursday: Pad Thai
Friday: Massaman beef curry, rice
Saturday: Ham, egg & chips

You already have one toddler OP. You don't need two. He's an irresponsible twat. Get rid.

I really hope you have got this alcoholic out of your child's life and yours.

Very, very damaging to be around someone like this.

Wrong thread drive? Also, can I come for dinner?

Things are ok. I've taken the key off him, told him that drinking needs to be seriously curbed. He is not to come to my house again having been drinking.

I wonder which thread drive meant to put that on.

I wouldn't say 31 is too old for this behaviour, but I wouldn't have him in the house in that condition either. Glad you've got his key off him and I hope he either sorts himself out or you give him the elbow and find someone who has less of a drink problem.

Think Drive meant to put that on meal plan thread. But I did read tomorrow's meal as 'Egg mankini'

It's definite to old for this behaviour. how on earth does he function at work of he drinks so much.

I was going to suggest you change the locks but you git the key back.

You poor thing. You deserve so much better. being ok in the day does not make up for this

Oh ooops! I blame it on the stonking hangover

Well done 13. That's a good start and I hope it makes him think. But he has a long way to go.

How did he react OP? Did he even apologise to you? Offer to have the carpet professionally cleaned? Was he shocked at you asking for the key back? Or did he agree he's crossed a massive line coming when yoh had said not to?