to think due to aibu it is now hard to have any sort of debate on here

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without people reporting posts instead of debating on thread or people being offended by the slightest thing, silencing any sort of free speech

it's becoming a very strange place and i think aibu is the main cause of it.

when i joined there was a fair amount of people being offended but they gave their reasons in polite intelligent debate. not people just i suppose report

i wish aibu was a whole different website at times then i could play like i used to on here

Depends on how it's challenged.

'That's not a word people use, try XXX' - 'fuck off' - unreasonable
'OP, I can't believe anyone uses XXX any more, you are clearly a kitten murderer - fuck off - slightly more reasonable!

Well, ilovesooty, your challenge is there. I tend to pull up my big girl pants and think someone's an arse. Why give them the satisfaction of feeling hard done by.
Not referring to disabling or racist language btw. That needs to go, who wants to look at that shit. The milder stuff or PAs......meh, life's too short to go whinging to MNHQ.

*disablist

Stupid iPad.

Wow, Fatmomma you must be new if you believe you were 'universally rounded' upon in that thread. By one poster. Once.

I meant discriminatory language including racism, disabilism, homophobia, sexism, ageism etc - any of the protected characteristics really. Not the milder just being an arse stuff.

Thanks magimedi. I'm trying to limit my AIBU postings to real, strong annoyances, otherwise I could be on there all the time! :)

meh, life's too short to go whinging to MNHQ.

Au Contraire, it's very satisfying to see an idiots posts reduced to a pile of "MNHQ Deleted This Comment"

Haven't read the others' comments but I agree with OP, people are far too easily offended and report anything they dislike or don't agree with rather than debate it out openly. I've been reported quite a few times lately for not agreeing with others' posts. I used to be a regular and back then mumsnet was a good place for friendly banter and a good argument even at times. Life got in the way and I came off for a few years but I dip in now n again but it seems I get reported for an opinion whenever I do comment these days lol

Depends which MNHQer your report pings to, IKnow. Consistency isn't their strong point, or longer term issues that stay just this side of the guidelines but when put together add up to more.

Getting posts deleted is a game for some posters. Too thick to argue their corner, fond of short term gratification, who knows?

They certainly don't delete someone just for disagreeing with someone else as far as I can see. The talk guidelines have to be broken.

Read Jon Ronson 'so you've been publicly shamed'

It's a really good book, highlights this phenomena that is generally happening across most public forums and social media.

I've been reported quite a few times lately for not agreeing with others' posts.

You will only know that someone reported you if your post is deleted and/or you get a warning from HQ. If that has happened to you it won't be just because you didn't agree with others, it will be because you broke the guidelines.

Which is exactly what OP is talking about. Don't break guidelines, just debate. There's no need for anyone to have their posts deleted tbh unless they are doing it on purpose.

Exactly Fairenuff

That argument sounds like "I've been deleted but it wasn't fair "

I was deleted last week for losing my temper and responding to someone who was goading. It would have been better if I'd kept out of it and just reported.

I sit on my hands & report like mad - it's what MNHQ ask you to do & at the end of it, it's their train set.

The always offended are a strange lot they manage to turn the conversation round to their agenda and cause a fuss when there is no need saying people are ist or phobic when they are clearly not i cant work out if they are taking the piss or just bitter and angry.I was reading a thread earlier and it turned into a fight about caytlin jenner AGAIN it wasnt even about that but they managed it

If someone points out discriminatory language it's not for others to make the judgement that it's "clearly not" .

If someone thinks it is and reports that's MNHQ 's decision.

Maybe people don't realise the implications of certain words or where they come from, or their impact. Some people do realise but don't care.