To be annoyed at my boyfriend for going out on his bday?

[zippyone]

My boyfriend has just said he is going out on Sat (his bday) to watch a boxing match, the thing is he went out last Sat with his mates to a concert which was meant to be for his bday.

Even if I was invited I prob wouldn't want to go anyway (not a fan of boxing) but the point is we can't afford it, we are up to our eyeballs in bills and rent is due on Monday which we don't have. Seems like I am the only one worrying about it while he is off having fun!

Sorry for the rant but if it were my bday I would just want a nice normal day with him and the kids, no expense as we can't afford it!

Sorry Gerti is right. Autocorrect error.

I have to say OP he sounds like my ex husband,living with him was exhausting.

He did the same,was never organized with money,ran up loads of debts,left me to do everything for him,our 2 young sons and myself.

There were other problems as well,I was with him for 9 and a half years,we were married for just over 7 years.

It was hard at first for the children,but the relief for me was pretty much instant and the children were a lot happier than they'd ever been within 6 months.

I have to say he's had 2 serious relationships since we split up,we split up 15 years ago.One of them he messed the poor girl around even more than he did me,the second one he's married and they've just had they're second child.But he's not changed,he's just lost his second job and they might now loose they're house.I feel really sorry for her and they're LO's and I worry about her and the children all the time.

I've gone onto remarry and my husband is the complete opposite to my ex husband,really good with money,a real family man and really on the ball.All 5 of our DC adore him and he adores them.For the two oldest he's Dad as far as they're concerned,my ex husband did himself no favors when it comes to the two oldest and in the long run he's lost out.

Gosh OP, he sounds like a completely selfish git, to be honest. Wasting his money when he doesn't know if there is enough in the family budget to feed his children and keep a roof over their heads. His songs must be wonderfully insightful

I really don't know what to do, he is not all bad, I realise I am moaning alot on here and pointing out his bad points not his good points so you all may think he's worse than he is. He is not always a selfish git!!

This is a bloke who would rather buy new clothes than put a wash on!

He's not only selfish but he's useless as well. What's the point of a partner that won't...partner?

Why are you so resigned to it? He might be nice some of the time, but these are some quite major problems and overall pretty poor treatment of the whole family.

Why are you prepared for your DC to miss out and have problems and less time with you than they could because he is lazy and selfish, and you are trying to keep everything going?

Living with someone like this is a total nightmare. I'm afraid it sounds like he doesn't give a shit about you. Why would anyone expect the mother of their children to pay all the bills and do all the work? That is what he is doing. It's financial abuse - he's witholding his wages (spending 100 quid a week on crap) - whilst you struggle to pay for everything. Nightmare. I hope he either shapes up or ships out for your own sanity. How on earth have you put up with it for so long? You're much stronger than me - I put up with it for 4 years and that was long enough. The rows I had trying to get some help from him, then he'd go out and buy a curry for himself or steal my money/our dd's savings money. ugh. Sends shudders down my spine just remembering it.