To not want to tell the other school mum's that DS has Aspergers

[thegirlinthebed]

DS just turned 6.

He's been diagnosed with Aspergers.

I'm sure the parents of the other children in his class might guess he's a little different - but I'm afraid to say anything to them as I don't want to label him forever

He's almost 'normal' but can get very upset suddenly. Normally he gets over it pretty quick and gets on with things.

Sometimes I worry if I have to leave him at a party by himself in case he gets upset and I'm not there to calm him down quickly. I feel on edge until collection time.

If I tell people then everyone will know forever - and they'll always view him as someone with Aspergers. There's so much more to him

What would you honestly think if you heard someone in your child's class has Aspergers? Would you assume that child would find similar types of children to play with and wouldn't be joining in with your child?

If you don't know someone with aspergers / mild autism what would you assume my DS is like?

If you were me would you say nothing?

ZZZZ, I am indeed getting the impression that you don't understand at all what I am saying. So we can agree on that at least! Probably best not to derail thread any further.

OP, I wish you and DS all the best and I hope you are able to reach a decision that you feel comfortable with.

It's up to you and your DS. My DS2 (7) is physically disabled. He views himself as disabled and he tells people he is disabled. DS1 (nearly 9) is currently being assessed for Aspergers syndrome. He doesn't view himself as disabled so we never call him that. We haven't told anyone apart from family. He doesn't see it as a disability, he just sees it that he's good at chess, lego and maths but not good at coping with change, running and making friends

I can remember some kids from primary school that I probably unintentionally upset because no one explained why they were so obviously different. I was just a curious kid but I wish I had been told more and it hadn't happened.