to think that kissing my girlfriend is not 'rubbing other peoples faces in it'

[mileend2bermondsey]

using the term 'girlfriend' lightly here, date may be may be more appropriate.
On our way home from a lovely date with a girl the other night giving her snog before we split up to go our seperate ways. A group of girls shouted in our direction 'where are the homophobes when you need them' we just laughed between us and carried on.

Anyway I'm telling a colleague about it and she says that whilst she isnt homophobic, she doesnt like her face being rubbed in it by seeing lesbians/gays kissing in public. Ok I can completely appreciate lots of people dont like PDA's, but you cant discriminate which pda's are acceptable. If she doesnt have a problem with a straight couple kissing in public but she does have one with a gay couple, then shes homophobic no?

I think PDAs are fine. Streight, gay, whatever. Who cares! Everyone loves a snog. Bollocks to her.

I'd snog in front of her on purpose.

I'm another who doesn't go in for PDAs but if they have to happen it doesn't bother me what gender or sexuality they are. I think it's great that gay people can show their affection in public without worrying about the consequences. I'm not denying there's homophobia out there, but it's better than it was.

oooooh OR

you are rubbing her face in it because you've not snogged her.....?

lol at having neck muscles and eyelids
but this is a very good point

I'm not keen on an x-rated PDA but right now someone* could be climactically groaning outside my double glazing and, what with me facing the other way, I couldn't give a fuck. Which is ironic, really.

PS Do not snog colleague. At least not until she's got a toothbrush and seen a dentist/vet.

*I mean two someones. Someone on their own climactically groaning by my shrubbery I have issues with, whether I can see them or not.

YANBU mileend

I participated in a cycling event a while back and was stuck next to this guy who would not stop boring on about how his DW was so unsupportive of his sports, he'd had to beg to be allowed to come to this event, was never allowed to buy any new bike stuff, wasn't allowed to bring his bike in the house etc etc. In the spirit of turning it into a conversation not a monologue I volunteered that I was lucky because my DP is also into cycling and we keep our bikes in the living room.

Apparently him droning on about his DW was perfectly ok but me mentioning my DP was "rubbing his face in it" and something to do with the "gay agenda" and he went and complained to the organiser (who told him to fark off)

He's another one who claims not to be homophobic. (just for clarity his complaint was that he'd spent valuable minutes chatting up a lesbian that I'd mentioned a same-sex partner, not that I'd rubbed his face in having a more supportive partner!)

YNBU - Snog on!

at ThingummyJigv

Btw Mileend.....were the crowd shouting 'where are the homophobes' saying it in a jokey way, or were they being homophobic themselves?

No, they were being homophobic. It was meant to mean 'where are the homophobes when you need them - to do something about this display

I once witnessed a (hetero) suckling incident on the tube. It was hideous. I went temporarily blind. Would much rather see you and your lovely lady having a goodnight snog.

Your colleague is a homophobe.

I think snogging in public is lovely!

Please go on snogging whoever you like wherever you like. Or the homophobes win.

On a side note, you should visit Penrith! It's lovely, lots of independent shops and fab places to drink tea.

The ostrich farm is a nice day out too

Yanbu. But ywbu to laugh off the homophobia from the group - although I understand it, as these situations can become threatening.
At least we have come a long way. I won't hold hands with my DP in the steeet, despite having been together over a decade, married for donkeys and having two kids. Good on you OP!

More love needed in the world op not less aye. Yanbu.

Ok that's what I thought you meant, just that when the pair of you laughed I wondered if maybe it was coming across different to how I imagined it.

I don't mind seeing couples (gay or straight) holding hands or giving each other a little kiss eg peck on the lips, peck on the cheek. Seeing a couple sitting together on a bench, one with their arms round the other's shoulder is nice.

But anything more is horrible.
Whether they are gay or hetro makes no difference to me - I don't want to see anyone snogging in public.

where are the homophobes when you need them

people need homophobes? if you deal with people have a little kiss, stay indoors.

*can't deal

Not overly relevant to the thread, but my Mum used to hate it when my sister was overly at all PDA with her girlfriends. (She's mostly got over it now ). She was so determined not to be seen to have a problem with it though that she'd suppress and suppress and eventually would have to find an outlet, so if I so much as took a boyfriend's hand while watching a film on the sofa she'd roar at us about times and places and not wanting to be forced to watch that kind of thing in her own living room. Meanwhile DSis and gf of the month week would be practically having sex with their clothes on on the other sofa and nothing was ever said!

I couldn't give a shiny shite whether people r gay/straight/bi/trans/etc n I despise homophobia. Ur colleague is homophobic whether they even know it themselves or not.

Yanbu to kiss ur partner!! That said, I find any couple outright snogging unpleasant to see (n hear sometimes ewww) . A little kiss, sweet. A full on tounging explore, not so much.

Agree with general consensus your colleague is being homophobic, and pretty rubbish about hiding it. Personally I like seeing couples kissing in public, reminds me of when I met my husband and we used to kiss in the street (and got lots of catcalls about it). I also like seeing gay couples kissing in the street because it makes me really happy I don't live in a country where my brother and my friends have to hide who they are.