to think that kissing my girlfriend is not 'rubbing other peoples faces in it'

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using the term 'girlfriend' lightly here, date may be may be more appropriate.
On our way home from a lovely date with a girl the other night giving her snog before we split up to go our seperate ways. A group of girls shouted in our direction 'where are the homophobes when you need them' we just laughed between us and carried on.

Anyway I'm telling a colleague about it and she says that whilst she isnt homophobic, she doesnt like her face being rubbed in it by seeing lesbians/gays kissing in public. Ok I can completely appreciate lots of people dont like PDA's, but you cant discriminate which pda's are acceptable. If she doesnt have a problem with a straight couple kissing in public but she does have one with a gay couple, then shes homophobic no?

Kissing is acceptable, especially if parting company
Snogging, not so much. And i dont care who is doing the snogging. Urgh even typing the word is giving me chills. In a bad way. Snog. What an awful word.

Change it to, at the end of our date i was kissing... Or even tenderly kissing... And it is fine and acceptable.

But, 'rubbing' her 'nose in it' makes it aound like jealousy. Thats the phrase people use when they are jealous.

depends, we're you practically eating eachother and being a bit "handsy" or was it a scene suitable for public viewing

I can't say I'm. that bothered by people kissing in public provided it's not going too far couldn't give a shit what gender each person was either. my kids aren't remotely bothered either by seeing two people hold hands

Kissing is hardly rubbing your face in it. She should just look away.

oh how we hope our kids don't grow up so hateful

Yes I detest the word snog but kissing makes it sound like it was a quick peck. Apprently 'pash' is the word the kids are using these days as in passionately kissed.

Oh, kiss who the heck you want, where you want.

She was being very silly. I don't think most people would bat an eyelid round here (and we're definitely not in Soho).

Snoggers give me the boak. I don't care what sex they are. Tenderly kissing is even worse. Shudder!

Sounds like you had a lovely holiday romance anyway!

And some people can be real
Jerks. The people shouting in the street could have just looked away instead of intruding on your moment.

I hope you smiled sweetly and said "Yes you are".

My best friend is gay and on the tube he kissed me goodby and not his own boyfriend. It made me sad but he felt vulnerable being left on tube had he kissed his bf.

YANBU that is a classic homophobic remark. Sorry you had to listen to that nonsense. Now that she has 'come out' to you as a homophobe, just give her a wide berth.

My closest friend (who is gay) has the perfect come-back to the sort of attitude your colleague is exhibiting. She just starts a monologue along the lines of "Don't get me wrong, I'm not heterophobic or anything, but I do wish those straight people would keep their perverted opposite sex attraction to themselves..."

She can keep this monologue up for ages, working in just about every homophobic cliche you've ever heard, and her sense of comic timing and working the audience is impeccable.

OP - people snogging late at night on the way home from a drunken night clubbing - well that's what drunk people of both sexes and all sexual orientations (barring asexual, presumably) do! Just makes me think "oh to be young again!"

Uh, sounds like the crowd I work with. Totally convinced they aren't homophobic, but they just don't want to see it.

They aren't homophobic though.

In case you are wondering they aren't homophobes.

UANBU I love a snog. And to see randoms at it is beautiful. Carry on my friend.

YANBU obvs. Sorry pedants!

I'm not a fan of the PDA, however a late night snog is perfectly acceptable imo. Ditto a peck goodbye at the train station.

A full on tonsil-exploring face-sucking shlurpfest in the queue at Twatrose, not so much.

Colleague is homophobe. Exactly what is her face rubbed in, metaphorically speaking, by seeing two people kiss?

Whenever I see a same sex couple kiss/hold hands etc., it makes me happy to think I live in an area and an age where such things are done without fear of the kissers being publicly shamed/hounded/beaten/arrested/executed. Hurray that people can snog in public with confidence!

I know obv there'll always be some twerp who thinks it's OK to hurl abuse but I would like to think those idiots are dwindling in number.

Ignore twatty colleague - carry on kissing I say!

She is BU to differentiate between same sex/hetero couples.

YABU to snog in public (unless you're 15).

Your colleague is homophobic. Tell her to jog on.

If she felt that way about public displays of affection regardless of whether the couple were straight or otherwise then fair enough - to object on grounds that the couple showing such PDA were homosexual then she is homophobic despite her protestations.

My best friend is gay and on the tube he kissed me goodby and not his own boyfriend. It made me sad but he felt vulnerable being left on tube had he kissed his bf
Stuff like this makes my heart bleed.
Being both an ethnic minority and gay (aren't I such a modern and diverse little treat? ) I have faced sooo much more abuse and discrimination agaisnt my sexual orientation than my skin colour. I almost expect to face some sort of homophobia on a day to day basis, where as I'd be shocked to experience racist abuse. Its very sad really, and not something I thought was a major problem until I came out and started to experience it first hand. I imagine it is much worse for gay men.

That's really sad. You kiss who you like and try to ignore the idiots who have a problem with it!

Are you sure the 'rubbing my face in it' comment wasn't to do with her being utterly unsnoggable by anyone of any gender or sexual orientation, due to her lacklustre whingeing personality and gorilla's crotch breath, and thus it's mere jealousy?

....as in 'how dare those people have love and affection and sexytime in their lives, when I will die miserable and alone and not be found for weeks, half eaten by my 87 cats?'

if they do not like it they can look away.

I don't love watching other people song but then having neck muscles and eyelids I don't have to! The gender of the snoggers is irrelevant to my level of comfort!! They were being dicks.