aibu to let these comments grate on me?

[spillyobeans]

Im 38wks pregnant with 1st baby, and really happy and excited and generally looking forward to the new experience. I know people make the usual comments like 'oh you wont know whats hit you' and 'you'll be exhausted' etc and thats cool heard it a few times from different people and not bothered me at all as i know its just what people say!

However tonight we popped round to see pil and mil kept going on and on saying how i will find it so hard and will need to give baby to her to babysit atleast once a week as i will need to get away from baby. (Ok maybe genuine suggestion of help there so doesnt read too bad) but she then said: i know you will be very protective and not want to let anyone look after them, but you will just have to get over that and get away from them.

I know shes trying to be supportive and i will happily take her up on the offer if im struggling etc...but im not worried at all and looking forward to my newborn! And they might not be that much of a handful? I dont want to come across as ungrateful but if i am coping and enjoying my newborn why should i have to hand baby over to have free time to myself when i just want to enjoy being a mum?

Aibu or just hormonal?!

Thanks for the advice, like i said before I'm not dissmissing her offer of help as I'm well aware that I may really want and need it, and have said to her "yeah we will see when the time comes/arrange something when they are here". However its the telling me i wont cope etc and belittling comments. Plus im not 'mil bashing' myeyes as i would say the same about my mum if she acted that way, however she hasnt and she lives such a distance away that i wont be seeing her everyday, whereas its almost impossible to try and keep some privacy from mil as she lives around the corner. Plus she doesnt work or have any hobbies, so her family are all shes got (which isnt a bad thing just means she tends to be way more full on in terms of boundaries etc ) - she has to know every minute detail of your life .

I can imagine saying 'ah thanks for the offer but we are ok at the moment' and i know she would say why, what are you doing? What are your plans?how long etc to the point where you can't say no because id feel rude.

I want her and baby to have good relationship i just dont want it to be a battle of wills between me and her as i think she does want to re live being a mum and have 'baby time' rather than help me out. (Saying she will take baby so i can clean - sod the cleaning i want to spend time with my baby!!)

Yeah its when you politely decline or say 'well me and dh will decide when it comes up' and you get told oh no you need xyz. You know what...i might but i will be the one bloody deciding not you!