To ask how a woman would "use sex to get her own way"

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I'm not planning on doing this but just caught a glimpse of a lads mag advising 'lads' not to allow their girlfriends to "use sex to get their own way". How? I'm not buying the mag just to find out!

It makes me think of saying "I'll only do that if you do this" but surely not?

Makes me think of that line in 'Scandal' about getting them nicely despunked and much more likely to agree to anything.

You are extremely naive if you don't think this happens.

I kindof do this but not intentionally lol. My DH is far more amenable after a bit of rumpy pumpy. Running about after me and doing jobs lol

By saying to dh buy me that dress and I will guarantee you something nice later..........wink wink

If you turn the football off we can go and do X in the bedroom.

Ugh. It reduces men to brainless and women to libido-less

I don't do it for that reason, I do it because he is hot and sexy

But ya know, iv noticed the difference afterwards

Why does it reduce anyone to anything? It's only fun, it isn't serious debate tactics. Some couples have a laugh and it is no more or less than fun.

Any one male or female can use sex to achieve something.

Either the withdrawal of it as a punishment or doing it as a reward

Sex being equated to monetary capital in a lads mag, how original!

You have to ask...?!

I'd imagine that sex is used as bargaining tool more often than most people would like to think, but more commonly I'd have thought in a negative withholding sex way than a 'positive' bribing with sex way.

How a bloke is going to guard against his GF withholding sex I have no idea. There's a word for that!

I know it happens I just didn't think it was a normal thing or how someone could do it in a normal way and not in a TV show way!

I couldn't imagine saying "if you do this, we can do...the other"!

I think it's yet another way of making out that women don't actually want sex but, it could just be because I'm being grumpy!

I suppose I would withhold if I was irritated with him but maybe I wouldn't see it as 'withholding' as such because I'd be annoyed with him and wouldn't fancy it...OK, maybe I'm U turning on the withholding part!

As Fraisier once said, "how can men use sex to get what we want? Sex IS what we want!"

But women want it too!

I know, I just really like that quote!

Men do it too. Himself can get me to agree to anything afterwards.....

The same way that you can use anything the other party wants to get what you want, I guess.

It's distasteful though because of course men could also use sex as a bargaining tool.

I have to say I have not purpously ever tried to seduce my husband with the plan to get my own way, If I do it its because I want it or I think he needs a treat. Im pretty sure it happens all the time thougH

GilbertBlytheWouldGetIt It is a good quote!

Lately (or at least to me) everything seems to imply that women don't want to, it's something men want and women choose when to dish it out but they don't really like it!

I recall, when they were in their mid- seventies, my mother saying that she'd 'let' my father have sex, so they now would be going on the holiday she wanted... she obviously knew how things worked.

God, I couldn't disagree with that viewpoint more. I'm a woman and I've never turned it down.

Oh of course, women don't enjoy sex...we just do it to keep mern happy and get a nice little present!

I know I just lie back and think of England.