To really be quite upset about the lack of photos?

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My new baby will be two weeks old tomorrow. I've taken loads of pictures of her with all our friends and family, and loads of her with my husband.

He has taken none (0) of me. There is no photo of when the doctor gave her to me after her birth. None in the hospital. None coming home. None of us meeting friends and family. None of me just cuddling her.

I find this quite upsetting and I don't really understand why he doesn't want to take these pictures. I've mentioned it now twice and I've asked him to take some but it's not happening.

Would you be upset about it or am I just being stupid?

Hello, same boat here. I would have no hospital pics of me and brand-new DD if I hadn't taken some myself.

Either ask your DH to take them, like PP said "Could you grab the camera and take a quick snap, love?" or take some selfies, brelfies or whatever-else-fies. I have a good few self-taken pictures of me and baby DD and lots of them are perfectly lovely.

My dh the same. I was always very aware of the background of a picture knowing would hate it if the place was a mess behind me. He never took a picture and if l constantly complained then he would suddenly have the great idea to take one of me with dc with the washing machine behind us. This was before editing our own stuff. After a while l was like a vain teenager..I set myself up perfectly for a picture...hair background etc..no spontaneous ones as they were always shocking. I have lovely pictures now all set up by me. Still do it even though kids are grown..ask him to take pictures of me and kids in front of Christmas tree in the snow etc as he never would think of it. I take lots of him. So don't take it personally.. Be your own director and totally plan it. You will be so glad later when you and your little one read through the baby book again and again. Insist and just say..take me now and now..look at picture straight away and ask for more if not happy. Take ones in bed in the mornings.. Everywhere.

It is the opposite situation here. My DH takes the photos and I never think about it. It just never occurs to me. I guess I am too busy enjoying/taking part in the situation to think about photos. I didn't grow up in a family that took a lot of photos while my husband did. Could this be the issue?

I read a really interesting essay on this, the subject being how women are the record and archive keepers of families yet simultaneously do not appear in their family history. Quite a depressing concept really. I can't link as I don't actually think it's on the net but it's in the book "Perspectives on Women's Archives" and is by Susan Tucker titled "Tacitly the work of women: Personal archives and the public records of families".

I always think of the idea that I am recording my family's history but will not be in that record if I don't ensure it myself because no one else will. Lots of selfies with kids!

I am afraid that guys just don't think. I make a Photobook each year of the kids to record what they have done. My DH is in 90% of the 1000 ish photos that I choose from and I 'm in 10% of them but the ones that DH have taken tend to be out of focus or the kids are looking the wrong way!! My mum says the same thing happened with my baby book- she would set up the photo and then at the last minute my dad would walk in and hold me!

Tell him! I know exactly what you mean, found it quite embarrassing asking him to photograph me with new baby and then ended up looking all tense and posed, I wanted some nice natural shots, but he never bothered! Hundreds of the MIL and baby though!!