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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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I'm a bit tired of blogger yummy mummies

62 replies

LittleTurtle · 05/06/2015 11:19

Summer is coming up, and we are waiting for the slim near perfect blogger mums telling us how they went to the beach the other day and someone laughed at their stretch marks while they were wearing their bikinis, so they were quite upset and went to have a little cry.

When my mummy friends and I go to the beach, we would be greatfull to be even able to wear a bikini...............................

Others will show us a slight tummy and go and on about it - all I can say is lucky them they remain a size 10/12, some of us carried the weight all over.

Sorry, just read another blog just now.lol

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Anewmeanewname · 05/06/2015 11:58

Don't read them. I avoid almost all blogs on the basis that they are almost inevitably tedious to read and only really interesting to the blogger themselves and possibly their immediate circle.

SirChenjin · 05/06/2015 11:58

See, now I've been sucked in OP. I now know Rachel Hollis (she of the slightly crumbled but not so's you'd really notice tummy) is an author who cooks for her family, has a skincare routine and uses a toy dinosaur as a loo roll holder. My brain is now filled with even more useless crap than it was 5 minutes ago

PenguinBollards · 05/06/2015 12:00

"we are waiting for the slim near perfect blogger mums telling us how they went to the beach the other day and someone laughed at their stretch marks while they were wearing their bikinis, so they were quite upset and went to have a little cry."

Erm, I'm not. I'm getting on with other stuff.

EasyToEatTiger · 05/06/2015 12:00

Well I think it's really time to be revolting. Mankinis all round!

PenguinBollards · 05/06/2015 12:04

"Saucy, if it were that easy, most women would look like Kate Moss and not ask if my bum looks big in this."

I've never asked this of anyone at any time, even though my arse is fairly substantial.

Am I getting it all wrong, by not "waiting for" or reading blogs that irritate me, and by not asking for body-image validation?

GlitzAndGigglesx · 05/06/2015 12:07

Blogs bore the life out of me anyway unless they're about food

OstentatiousBreastfeeder · 05/06/2015 12:08

I do this sometimes OP. I find something has annoyed me and even though I'm pretty sure I could just not read/do the thing that is annoying me, I think 'shall I start an aibu just in case someone agrees?'

And then I think nah best not.

CakeNinja · 05/06/2015 12:09

I've never read a blog in my life.
Maybe instead of waiting for people you don't know to do things you don't approve of, do some star jumps or something.

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LittleTurtle · 05/06/2015 12:09

No one literaly asks 'Does my bum look big in this' - thought this was always clear, as an ironic expression about women worry about their bodies.

Oh, forget it! Forget the whole post!

Mumsnet is full of body confident slim mummies!

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VirginiaWoofs · 05/06/2015 12:14

I hate this idea that slim people can't feel bad about their bodies.

I'm a size 10, and for all intents and purposes I am slim.

But I have an intense loathing of my body; I sometimes struggle to leave the house because if it.

My problems are a bit extreme but just because I'm "slim" doesn't mean I'm happy.

I mention this because you dismissed the blogger mummies for complaining about their "marginal" flaws.

FirstOfficerDouglasRichardson · 05/06/2015 12:14

Oh dear. Why let it bother you so much? Stop reading them or start your own.

WorraLiberty · 05/06/2015 12:18

I hate all blogs, therefore I don't read them and no it's not difficult at all to avoid them.

Anyone can wear a bikini if they are confident enough.

If you aren't confident enough, why annoy yourself by reading blogs from those who are?

Life's too short.

PenguinBollards · 05/06/2015 12:29

Mumsnet is full of body confident slim mummies!

Not at all ~ I'm overweight. But I don't give a toss what people think about my body size. I focus on other things.

If blogs and articles about body size make you uncomfortable then don't read them. Life is too short and the days are too busy to let this type of thing bother you.

Go to the beach. Put a bikini on, or don't. You don't need to be 'grateful' to be able to do so (grateful to who, I wonder? Who has the right to approve or validate what you wear?) You are already able to wear a bikini if you wish, because we are lucky enough to live in a part of the world that doesn't stone women for 'indecent' behaviour.

But don't let a blog influence how you feel. Blogs are intended to attract traffic, so they're hardly an agenda-free reflection of anyone's reality.

ApeMan · 05/06/2015 12:34

If you feel people are vain boring brainless twats, don't read their stuff.

It's what I do to other people. It's what most people do to me. It's a system, and it works.

OneFlewOverTheDodosNest · 05/06/2015 12:47

Honestly, OP - I think you need to go on holiday to the South of France or somewhere similar and see all the variety of women - young and old, big and small, hairless and very much not, who proudly line the beaches in their bikinis.

It would do wonders for your confidence - and hopefully if you feel a bit happier about yourself you can stop worrying about this blogger and her not quite but not far from perfect stomach.

SmilingHappyBeaver · 05/06/2015 13:01

Lord knows there are many ways to waste time in one's life but my honest opinion is that reading other people's blogs is right up near the top spot.

^^ This

Mintyy! Love it. So bloody true.

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LittleTurtle · 05/06/2015 14:17

Once more :

They are on mainstream news, not blogger sites (I never read those either), so the headline makes it look like you are about to read about some shamed normal mom somewhere.

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PenguinBollards · 05/06/2015 14:27

But why would anyone want to read an article about a 'shamed normal mum' anyway? What good can possibly come of that?

If you step back from all of this stuff your self-esteem will improve immeasurably, I assure you.

Don't click the link. Reading about this stuff makes it seems like it matters. It doesn't matter. It's not 'news', it's propaganda.

DoJo · 05/06/2015 14:43

That link you posted demonstrates the opposite of what you are complaining about - the blogger concerned posted it because she's proud of her body and the picture went viral because people around the world agreed. Not really sure where that fits into your OP, but perhaps it is your outlook and interpretation of these 'news' stories that is bothering you more than the content if this makes you feel bad about figure.

Shakey1500 · 05/06/2015 14:58

I don't think I've actively read a blog. Nor would I intentionally. I'd find reading about one person's day to day life unendingly boring.

I have clicked on some links like you describe but I think "Ach, what a load of fucking bollocks" and click out.

That's what I think you should do. Life really is too short.

DoJo · 05/06/2015 15:20

so the headline makes it look like you are about to read about some shamed normal mom somewhere.

So why click on them at all? If you don't like those kinds of stories then the fact that the link is on a mainstream news site doesn't make it any less likely to be annoying. Or would you be happy with a woman being 'shamed' if she was a size 16? If you click through to a story expecting to 'enjoy' a story about a woman being embarrassed because of her body, then you are on fairly shaky ground claiming that you thought it was 'genuine' news.

Unexpected · 05/06/2015 15:29

Why would you want to read about a "shamed normal mum" (whatever on earth that is) more than you would want to read about a slim, blogger mum looking for compliments - which is what you seem to suggest these women are? Neither is of the slightest interest.

WorraLiberty · 05/06/2015 15:31

The woman in that link is a 'normal Mum.'

She's not claiming to have been shamed though.

She's got stretch marks and a saggy belly button, due to her pregnancies. Just like women everywhere.

If she's inspiring other women to not care about their stretch marks and sags, that's a good thing imo.

microferret · 05/06/2015 15:41

heh this is the perfect antidote to yummy mummy bloggers seriouslysoblessed.blogspot.de
it's a satirical piss-take of all those smug Mormon housewife blogs. You're welcome!

goodnessgraciousgouda · 05/06/2015 16:09

You are being seriously unreasonable if you think that just because someone is slimmer than you, they shouldn't be allowed to have any body confidence issues/be self conscious/hold views about their own body which are different to your perceptions of them.

You have no idea what they looked like before having children - maybe their body shape has changed and they are self conscious about it. Who the hell are you to sneer at them in what appears to be rather spiteful jealousy?

As if women didn't have enough pressure about the way they look, it's really quite sad when there are these sort of catty remarks.

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