to think that the teacher should have asked me to chat somewhere private

[CocktailQueen]

after school, rather than telling me about ds's bad behaviour in the playground in front of everyone and all the mums at pick-up time, making it obvious she was doing so????

I don't think that was very professional.

AIBU??

I. Also smiling at the wanky balls. I think a word in the playground is fine, but if other parents get too close (which is really rude of them) the teacher should say something like, " I'll be with you in a minute, could you just take a step back?" After all, it's not usually OK to eavesdrop.

I also love wanky wanky balls balls and know if it was my child Id struggle to keep a straight face while telling him off but was too cowardly to say yesterday.

I am very thankful that mine went to a school where teachers had a quick word in the playground - I would hate the waste of time, and inconvenience, of being taken off to a private room for 2 minutes.

cats the joys of when they start learning 'naughty' words!! - had a chuckle also at 'wanky wanky balls balls'. the teacher probably had to write it down on a slip because she'd feel such a divvy saying it out loud

Alarm bells ring when someone's first instinct (when being informed about a behavioural problem) is to feel miffed towards the teacher and hard done by.

You are lucky they inform you and you should concentrate on fixing the problem, defensiveness leads to becoming the problem parent.

you should concentrate on fixing the problem, defensiveness leads to becoming the problem parent.

One incident is not a "behavioural problem".

I'd be interested in the magic wand you think we can all wave. Children can behave very differently at home than they do at school. Some kids are actually little angels at home and then play up at school. Others are the other way round. It often has nothing to do with parenting I'm afraid.

And I agree that conversations should happen in private unless it is something fairly innocuous - sometimes teachers will tell the parents so they hear about the misdemeanour from them rather than another parent or child - but it's unlikely parents will hear - and it could be a quick conversation about anything to be honest. But in any event, it should not be about shaming the parents. That does not help.