To take my MIL up on her offer?

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My DD (14 months) attends nursery 4 days and spends the other day a week with my MIL. Recently MIL has been offering to let her stay the night before so I don't have to drop her off in the morning and so me and DP can enjoy an evening to ourselves. I keep thinking how lovely it would be but can't help but feel a little guilty for having some alone time when maybe we should be spending that time with her.

Why, womble?

A few reasons- it means Mum and Dad get a break, other family members get to spend time with the little un and it means said tiny gets used to being away from home/sleeping out and learns that it's okay.

My daughter used to spend every other weekend at her Gran's- they both loved it. She never had any problems going to sleep overs or the like as she grew up because she'd slept away from home before.

Thank you for all of your advice
DD has a fabulous relationship with her grandparents... they absolutely adore her! She has stayed overnight with them on a few occasions on a weekend so is very much used to being there and they have everything they need for her.
Me and DP work full time so we ensure that mornings, evenings and weekends are all about her. We very rarely have an evening out together on a weekend to socialise, go to the cinema, etc. The evening would be used to spend some alone time together, get things done around the house and get my uni work done.
After a long discussion, we have decided that we are going to give it a try but as many of you suggested, review on a regular basis.

you will miss a couple of hours in the evening and the rushed hour or so in the morning getting ready for work.

If you, your dd and your mil are all happy with either occasional or regular sleepovers then don't feel guilty about 2 hours max and your dd can have a more relaxed morning so will feel less tired for the weekend :)

Don't feel guilty about it- it's a wonderful thing you're doing and good for everyone.

i would say go for it

you'll be happier and by proxy your DD will be happier, so good all round

it is wonderful what a break can do for you. You're lucky to have the opportunity!

Give it a trial run, if it doesn't work out in the long term you can stop.

enjoy it!! :)

What's there to be guilty about?!! As long as you're happy with your baby spending time at MILS, and no hidden problems, do it already!

Go for it. Every parent needs a break sometimes. Plus there's something else. You know who was the center of my world throughout my childhood?

My grandparents. A wonderful relationship, loving, caring, trusting, a bond built up from an early age. There's nothing better. I can criticize my parents but there's one thing they did just bang on right that I owe them the world for and that's fostering that relationship.