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Period delaying pills - is it now normal ...

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Figmentofmyimagination · 29/05/2015 11:00

...for young people to use these to delay their period so they can eg "swim while on holiday"? I'm pretty shocked to be assured this is now normal - (and of course taxpayer funded, as they are in education).

This is not a contraceptive. According to NHS choices, it is a pill available on the NHS to treat menstrual disorders, also used when treating some breast cancers.

Perhaps unsurprisingly its listed uses do not include "delaying your period to have a nicer holiday".

OP posts:
DorothyL · 29/05/2015 12:33

The pill sometimes also gets described to help with acne.

Feminine · 29/05/2015 12:36

So, is it really okay to keep taking pills to not get a period at all?
Just wondering...

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 29/05/2015 12:37

Haven't read the full thread but it's not a new thing OP.

I'm 51, and my mother got me pills from the doctor to delay my period when i was a teenager, a couple of times, because we were going on holiday.

WinterOfOurDiscountTents15 · 29/05/2015 12:38

Yes, there is nothing healthy or necessary about having monthly periods.

HiImBarryScott · 29/05/2015 12:42

It's not just "young people" that use it.

I'm 40 and took it for the first time last weekend when I was on a special weekend away with my DH. We rarely get any time alone together and having my period while away for a romantic weekend without the kids would have been a complete PITA.

I thought it was brilliant. Yes, it certainly made our holiday "nicer" and I think that is a positive thing for me and for our relationship.

Wish I had known about it when I was younger. I have really heavy periods and can think of several occasions where it would have been good to delay it for a few days.

Redcherries · 29/05/2015 12:42

I used it recently for the first time for a long weekend away with DH and NO DC ;) It worked but made me a miserable cow bag who had no desire at all to take advantage of the child free time. Shan't use it again so theres some money back into the NHS pot ;)

I did have a fab full body massage that was 'leak' worry free though, that was nice, would have repeated that!

MarjorieWinklepicker · 29/05/2015 12:43

I have taken norethisterone once, prescribed by my GP.

It was my honeymoon and there was no way I wanted to spend it cramping and bleeding. Periods can be hell on earth for some women and if it makes things a little better for them occasionally then I don't see the issue tbh.

McDreamyMcNastyMcHottie · 29/05/2015 12:45

I started bleeding two days for my wedding, damn right I hotfooted it to the GP to get something to make it stop. I didn't want the worry or hassle of potentially bleeding onto my Ivory dress and I'm pretty sure my bridesmaids who were on dress hoiking duty in the toilets didn't need that visual either of me trying to change a tampon in front of them. We're close but there are limits.

OneFlewOverTheDodosNest · 29/05/2015 12:47

Why is it that some people still see women's problems as inconveniences to be coped with rather than real medical issues?

I used to pass out from period pain and losing blood - if that was happening for any other reason that wasn't a "woman's problem" then no-one would question NHS intervention, as it is there is an undercurrent of selfish women being fussy and delicate.

My friends have experienced the same attitude when they're trying to switch to a different contraceptive because they're having horrendous side effects. If this was something to lower blood pressure etc, doctors would happily change medication for something that didn't cause migraines or significantly impact on mood - but no, with a contraceptive you've got to be imagining those side effects. Just keep trying love, we'll see what happens after a few months!

RingforJeeves · 29/05/2015 12:48

Your period when you're on the pill isn't a real period. You haven't ovulated (or you shouldn't have anyway), so there is no uterine lining to get rid of. The pill basically works by tricking the body into thinking you are pregnant. The bleed you get on the pill is your body going into withdrawal due to the sudden drop in synthetic hormones, caused by switching from the pill to the sugar pills in the packet. It's not the same thing as your period, and it's not necessary.

The man who created the pill (or who was the main driving force anyway, of course many people worked on it), was a staunch Catholic. He very much wanted the church to accept the pill, so he created something that could also be said to help married women regulate their cycles, in order that they find it easier to get pregnant. To be able to claim this, women needed to get their 'period' so they could start charting it and figure out their cycle. There's no reason to have a bleed when you're taking the pill, other than one man's desire to gain the Catholic church's approval. Of course the church condemned it anyway (at the time).

Skipping these 'periods' is actually a good thing. If the pill had been made solely with women's health in mind there would be no sugar pills, and you wouldn't have a bleed. The body isn't used to having so many bleeds, women used to be either pregnant or nursing for much of their adult lives, and thus had far fewer periods. Suddenly having on average twice as many over the course of a lifetime takes it's toll. Just being on the pill in the first place and having these 'fake' bleeds helps with that a bit, but skipping over it altogether at least some of the time is the ideal.

In the UK a lot of doctors prefer you have a bleed every 3 months or so, in the US it's more like 6 months, in most places though doctors don't mind if you skip it for years. I skipped it for 6 years in my 20's, and I think it's been about 3 years since I've had a bleed now.

The only downsides are that you may get a little breakthrough bleeding anyway while you're body adjusts, and it's slightly harder to tell if you're pregnant, so you should be peeing on a stick every month or so just to be sure. The pregnancy issue is the main reason some doctors prefer you have a bleed now and then, because of course there are some people who won't take a test regularly or notice the signs of pregnancy until they're well into it. But if you are capable of being responsible with the pill and you can remember to take a test and be on the lookout for symptoms, there's no issue.

TurnOverTheTv · 29/05/2015 12:50

I'm on holiday at the minute and my 14yo has it. I can't see the problem at all. She doesn't like using tampons so why should she miss out on all the swimming pool fun etc?

WinterOfOurDiscountTents15 · 29/05/2015 12:51

Why is it that some people still see women's problems as inconveniences to be coped with rather than real medical issues?

Because for a lot of women they are the former and not the latter. Doesn't make any real difference though as its still up to them how they choose to deal with it.

Feminine · 29/05/2015 12:52

Thank you ringfor very interesting and informative. :)

MissMooMoo · 29/05/2015 12:54

yabvu why not use something to delay your period if you want to?!
I'm planning on using this pill in Aug as im due on my period the day I get married weeps

trulybadlydeeply · 29/05/2015 12:57

Last year my dd (16 at the time) went on a 4 week trek to Nepal. The GP gave her the options whilst she was away to delay her period (she was very anxious about dealing with heavy periods up a mountain) which were basically noresthrine (sp???) or going on the pill for a while and taking a pack back to back. She outlined the pros and cons of each option, and dd chose to take the pill. The GP was very happy to do this, and it worked well. I really don't see why anyone would have any objections Hmm

DuelingFanjo · 29/05/2015 12:58

"Your period when you're on the pill isn't a real period. You haven't ovulated (or you shouldn't have anyway), "

Can you explain then... if someone is on the pill for 20+ years from the age of 18 does that mean when they come off they have just the same amount of eggs as they did at 18?

DuelingFanjo · 29/05/2015 13:00

" I really don't see why anyone would have any objections"

some people might have personal objections because they don't want to put those hormones/chemicals into their body.

OurGlass · 29/05/2015 13:01

Done it loads eat my shit

trulybadlydeeply · 29/05/2015 13:03

Absolutely fanjo. Dd made an informed choice about that herself. I meant why would someone object to another person making that decision for themselves.

MarchLikeAnAnt · 29/05/2015 13:03

Pop a pill or bleed onto the aircraft seat? Pop a pill or stay out of the pool? Pop a pill or be doubled over in pain for 3/5 days? Hmmm...its a tough decision..

Feminine · 29/05/2015 13:04

Our glass
But not this month eh?

WinterOfOurDiscountTents15 · 29/05/2015 13:04

Essentially, yes. You're born with all the eggs you'll ever have, you don't actually produce any during your life. Ovulation just refers to the release of stored eggs. If you prevent ovulation, your eggs will age and wither and die the same as they would if you were ovulating every month, you'll just have more of them stored.

The majority of the eggs you are born with die off before you ever have a chance to use them, but you'll still have some left long after menopause, you just won't be able to use them (and they won't generally be usable anyway).

Figmentofmyimagination · 29/05/2015 13:06

One good thing about these forums is that they do show you how out of touch you are!

I am not sure I was unreasonable to be surprised. I did tell my DD I was surprised and to make sure she understood these pills and how they worked, and to be honest with the GP as to why she wanted them.

"Unreasonable" would have been to try to interfere with her decision to go to the GP and ask for these pills, which never occurred to me. "Unreasonable", as a parent, would also have been to have had no discussion with her about it at all.

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Tokelau · 29/05/2015 13:08

Yes OP you are being U. I have taken these a few times to go on holiday, as I wouldn't be able to enjoy the holiday or the activities there if I had my period. I'm not particularly 'young' either, I'm in my forties, and these tablets have been around for a while. My teenage DDs have also used them a few times. I do agree that they make the following period more painful though.

TheFairyCaravan · 29/05/2015 13:09

I've taken it as an adult.

My sister and I were very pissed off when we learned that our mother had been taking it so she didn't have her periods on our holidays but she hadn't thought about ours, so we were still suffering the cramps, nausea, vomiting and heavy bleeding!

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