My friend has just postponed her wedding for the third time. Because they can't afford to pay for it.
I can't deny I am pissed off about the money I have spent out on an outfit (not cheap, because of the theme - see below), and a present. And about the fact that we have changed all of our holiday plans for the year in order to be there (we are a two-working-parent family and between two diferent work places and two different schools, holiday planning isn't that easy at the best of times). Probably not as pissed off as the guests who have booked flights and hotels though.
My friend and her fiancé do not have much money. And honestly, I do sympathise. But they are not having a small wedding. They are having a large, dressy wedding with a theme, a full sit-down dinner and WEDDING PLANNERS FFS.
She is the sort of person who would decide to sell Avon to make some cash, and then before she has sold a single lipstick, buy a top of the range new laptop to support her business venture.
AIBU to want to suggest that they cut their cloth accordingly, and have a gorgeous shoestring wedding, supported by friends and family who will happily cook, BYO booze, play music, make decorations (they have many creative friends), rather than plan this completely unrealistic wedding, which is putting them into debt and alienating their friends and family as they keep bloody cancelling it?