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To rip off a thread? Advice to yourself, the "at 30 years old" version.

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DuchessofNorks · 26/05/2015 20:58

I am reading This Thread with much interest, wondering what I might regret not doing when I get to 50 when I'm in my 40's.

Now I am considering my future self looking back on now. I am on the fast train to my 30's and so far feel like I've wasted a hell of a lot of time not fulfilling all the dreams I have had over the years.

I don't want that in my 40's. I'd hate to think "Oh buggeryfuck, here I am 10 years on and nothing has changed". I wan't to look back on my 30's and think "what a brilliant decade, how can I improve upon it?"

Tell me what you would tell your 30 year old self at 40+. Inspire me to get off my arse, pull my finger out, replace it with a rocket, hike up my socks up and actually DO something before I wither away.

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queeneileen · 26/05/2015 21:01

Hang in there, it gets better.

Start the 5:2 sooner. Doesn't matter what you think, teens are harder work than Smalls. You can't bloody wallpaper so don't bother buying the expensive stuff.

Oh and your 30s are bloody brilliant.

Mrsstarlord · 26/05/2015 21:32

Don't spend so much money. Don't sell that house that you love to make DH happier, he is depressed and will be depressed wherever you live. But he will get better eventually and your friends will be important in the meantime.

flimflamflarnfilth · 26/05/2015 21:33

I watch with interest as I just turned 30 and life is feeling pretty stale. I love my DH & DCs, I'm doing a degree that I want as part of a longed for career change BUT...I don't know. Something lacking. my motivation I think

flimflamflarnfilth · 26/05/2015 21:34

Oops! Blush
Strike through fail!

sunbathe · 26/05/2015 21:49

You're gorgeous. No, really. Enjoy it.

BettyCatKitten · 26/05/2015 22:10

Yes, teens are MUCH harder than smallsGrin I've got that joy to look forward to AGAIN in a few years (weeps!)
Life is too short to wear uncomfortable knickers.
Have as much fun as possible!
Swap radio 1 for radio 2/4.

LindyHemming · 26/05/2015 22:24

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alwaysaskingquestionz · 26/05/2015 22:28

Place marking, another nearly 30 here

Binkybix · 26/05/2015 22:30

Don't get too stuck in your ways - carry on trying new things and trying to evolve as a person.

SweetAndFullOfGrace · 26/05/2015 22:35

For me, my 30s were (are) about confidence. I had a dawning realisation when I hit 30 that actually what other people think doesn't really matter as much as I used to think. Very liberating.

I wish I'd been more enthusiastic about taking advantage of that in my early 30s and not tread water quite so much. I feel much more urgency about my career and my wider life experiences now in my late 30s. You only get one life after all.

flashheartscanoe · 26/05/2015 22:44

Don't be so immersed in your little kids that you miss both your best friends 30th birthday parties. Oh and have a party, always a good idea.

littlejohnnydory · 26/05/2015 23:05

This horrible time with a baby that never sleeps and a toddler who can't be taken anywhere without hurting other children only lasts a few short months. Co-sleep, for your sanity. Put your connection with your boy before discipline, don't worry quite so much about giving him firm boundaries, focus on enjoying him.

Don't move house.

Don't trust your family.

Have driving lessons.

Visit your friend, even though it's hard with little children and little money. You need to stay close to your good friends. Don't let the friendship slide.

Go and visit him, he won't be here in five years' time.

spad · 26/05/2015 23:16

Make exercise a part of everyday.

Drink lots of water.

Dedicate time to losing weight because you will enjoy feeling great.

Your dreams will come true!

longjane · 27/05/2015 07:49

Ltb you can do you would have had different life I'd you had.

bythewindsailors · 27/05/2015 08:05

You will have children so don't worry and they will be more amazing than you could ever imagine.
Travel more.
What ever you do, do not get involved in preschools. It will end in tears and will suck the life from you.

GammonAndEgg · 27/05/2015 08:28

Have lots of sex.

ultrathule · 27/05/2015 08:47

I wish I could be 30 again.
If I could, I'd say to myself back then:

Leave your marriage, it has been dead for ages, stop pretending otherwise, it will be easier than you think to get the hell out. You can start your live again and meet someone who really values you. Do it now, the next two years will be awful.

Your mother will be ok.

You look gorgeous, you are unlikely to ever look this good again. Make the most of it.

Start running now instead of a few years later. You will be good at it. Better than you ever could think.

Stop trying to please people who don't give a toss about you.

FirstWeTakeManhattan · 27/05/2015 10:01

Get. A. Fucking. Grip. Stop spending. Start saving. Stop being such a selfish idiot. Leave your bloody job, get rid of the stress. Do something else that doesn't give you nightmares and insomnia.

Pass your driving test.

Ormally · 27/05/2015 14:17

See the lyrics of 'Everybody's Free to wear suncream'.

Learn how to be a bit of a slacker where it matters and you won't drive yourself into a hand-wringing, sobbing heap.

If you are likely to get hurt by FB, strictly ration it.

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DuchessofNorks · 29/05/2015 13:47

flimflamflarnfilth Ditto how you are feeling right now. My 20's seems to be ending on a duff note. I'm in some sort of funk I cant get myself out of.

littlejohnnydory This has really struck a chord with me, especially taking 3 yr old DS out, which is a nightmare with a baby DD and not letting my friendships slide. I have a friend I have put off seeing for that very reason and I MUST make time for her otherwise I will lose her.

I need to get out of this rut that i'm in at the moment. I have done the same thing I do every week again this week. It's such a waste of life. I just need help, ideas and some more bloody confidence in myself!

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bigTillyMint · 29/05/2015 13:51

Time to think about what you want for the rest of your life. Take a good look at yourself and make whatever changes are needed, and move on.

flimflamflarnfilth · 29/05/2015 17:52

Glad it's not just me duchess

I don't want to get to 40 and be in the same position, wondering how I got here and still procrastinating.

little, I have a really great friend who I almost never speak to. We both have 2 young DC and we just never seem to have time. She has never met my children and I have only met one of hers.

Suppose it's a case of hoik up your bosom and get a grip on life. The changes can't be made for you she says while eating chocolate digestives

MyLovelyHorse123 · 29/05/2015 18:02

Head up, shoulders back, tits up, onwards!

grumpysquash · 29/05/2015 18:32

Don't spend so much time and energy stressing about fertility. 30 is not old. Stop taking notice of scare stories and spend more time having fun with DH.

Petradreaming · 30/05/2015 08:38

Start saving for retirement. Stop spending so much on crap. Stop worrying about what people think. Everyone is winging it. Spend more time with your young children, savour every moment. Your 40's will be much better..... And look after your back Grin

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