I've been with my current partner for a few months now, he's a lovely man, when he's being attentitive he truly treats me like a princess (cringe at saying that) but, he can pull away, cancelling dates etc. He uses the fact that his mother is ill to explain why he can't see me, I have met his mother, she's a lovely woman but, I know he idolises her and would put her before me in a heartbeat (not a problem, I'd never make him choose). Yet, I do wonder if I am being unreasonable because I feel so let down and frustrated, even unwanted when he doesn't talk to me for days or cancels dates because of her. I don't know what her illness is, he won't tell me, but I do know I'd like to be able to support her as well, he just won't let me into this one aspect. Would I be unreasonable to walk away? I keep thinking what if we have kids and I disagree with his mother on something? Or we get married and I need him to stand by me in something but he puts his mother first? Or at Christmas? I'd want to spend at least every other with my family, but I don't know how he'd feel about that?
If anyone thinks I'm overreacting please tell me, Icould do with having some sense knocked into me, I'm just sick of having to chase him when he disapears into himself for his mother's sake like this, it makes me feel like he would rather not be with me.