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To think this hen party game was really awful?

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Dionysuss · 23/05/2015 21:30

Next month my brother is getting married. Yesterday we had the hen night. The brides best friends organised a drinking game quiz for her to do. They had asked my brother the questions and she had to guess the same answers.

It started off quite well. Favourite takeaway/ film ect. Then it was " after how many dates did you sleep together / favourite positions ". It turns out they used to use her mum bed fairly often too Shock

There was also a stripper but that's a whole other story.
Aibu to think that's too distasteful or am I just a party pooper.

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Oldraver · 23/05/2015 22:22

I would say tame to standard. Hopefully her Mum wasn't there

Allstoppedup · 23/05/2015 22:27

In a party shop yesterday I saw 'man rater' cards where number 1 declared "absolute minger"

I couldn't think of a single instance where it would be ok to pull that on someone...how mean.

Hate the whole 'hen do' thing!

bigbumtheory · 23/05/2015 23:53

Yabu, some people - like my dcousin- love the Mr and Mrs game which can be as tame or raunchy as you like.

Question is did the bride enjoy it? She's the one it's for (often to tease her or to get her to do shots if she's incorrect). It would only be distasteful if she hated that sort of thing and was mortified or upset.

Nishky · 24/05/2015 00:06

At my friends wedding the best man in his speech referred to the groom having sex in a lift-to which the bride retorted, well it wasn't with me.

As did the chief bridesmaid who had also date him.....

bigbumtheory · 24/05/2015 00:15

Lol nishky oh dear how did that go down with the best man and groom.

The most weird bm speech I heard had a reference to the groom finally getting to 'smash the bride's backdoors in (hate the phrase). To which the older generation were very confused until the very open and tipsy bride shrugged and said he'd done it many times before.

CactusAnnie · 24/05/2015 00:25

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bigbumtheory · 24/05/2015 00:54

What could be fun about skiing? Doing puff? Watching 50 shades? Going to a cabaret?

Different strokes for different folks. It's not my thing as the above arent either but I know people who enjoy them all the same. It was a night for the bride so as long as she had fun job done.

I wouldn't care to hear about a brother's sex life but I just went to the bar when my cousin's sex questions came up. And wlily straws were good, unlike the cheap plastic thin things they had no holes and I got no men trying to filtch a sip which bizarrely happens. My other cousin the brides sister wrote the questions so some siblings do enjoy it.

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bigbumtheory · 24/05/2015 00:59

Lol well they had the main normal straw holes but none of them had the pinprick ones which stop straws working because they are thicker, hard plastic. The piddly thin straws you get with cocktails...mine always has a hole.

Maybe83 · 24/05/2015 01:07

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TooOldForGlitter · 24/05/2015 01:12

Pretty standard hen party fun IMO.

TooOldForGlitter · 24/05/2015 01:19

Geez you boring bastards its a hen do. Booze, sex chat and at least one person going home without their bra is fairly standard.

swimmerforlife · 24/05/2015 01:25

Sounds like a normal hen night but to be fair I don't think I would want to know the ins and outs of my brother's sex life.

DoctorDonnaNoble · 24/05/2015 03:50

I didn't do this at mine. It's only happened at one hen I've been too and those of us who were friends with both bride and groom went out for some fresh air at that point!

SevenAteNine · 24/05/2015 04:27

It is the kind of thing not very imaginative people think is edgy and fun.
Her hen do I suppose.

5YearsTime · 24/05/2015 04:36

Totally normal! I've seen it filmed so the grooms answering the questions on screen after th brides done her answers. Fairly hilarious normally. If you don't like it walk away!

Ita a little bit cringey when no-one warns granny at the hen do!

DiDiddlyIDi · 24/05/2015 04:40

YABU this is totally standard hen do these days and has been for last10 years really.

WonderingWillow · 24/05/2015 04:42

Hahaha Grin at mum's bed Grin

Standard hen party fare, I think.

yearofthegoat · 24/05/2015 04:46

YANBU OP

I'm glad I got married when hen nights weren't a thing.

SevenAteNine · 24/05/2015 04:51

Horrendous things. So are stag nights.
A lot of people seem to think it's an excuse to behave badly.

BeCool · 24/05/2015 06:03

It may be standard and usual hen party behaviour but it is still pretty awful.

It's a myth that these things occur at all hens. They don't.

I've been to a few hens but have only seen that kind of thing on TV thankfully.

confusedandemployed · 24/05/2015 06:13

I'm with TooOld. Standard vanilla stuff.
I got married last week and it was done at my hen nights
My DSis organised it and was worried I wouldn't be into it because I can be a bit aloof...of course I joined in! It was my hen night, people are up for a cheap laugh at my expense and it was fun! I wasn't going to sit there clutching my pearls with my poker rammed up my arse.

PlumpingThePartTimeMother · 24/05/2015 06:19

I didn't have a hen do because the idea of a party like that fills me with horror op! I suspect my cousin will have something of the sort though, so I am steeling myself for the embarrassment. I guess you have to grin and bear it at someone else's party.

Stitchintime1 · 24/05/2015 06:44

It sounds awful but everything to do with hen nights usually sound awful. Even the word hen is awful. I'd forget about it.

ps: someone on here once referred to s henny. At least you were spared that.

mintpoppet · 24/05/2015 09:12

Sounds awful. I can't stand hen nights. Forced jollies with a group of women you often barely know. Plastic dick straws, stupid costumes and clubbing when I gave up clubbing at 21. I HATE the whole experience.