to think that calling your teenage daughter a slut is really not on?

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I've been dwelling on this a lot bit of late. I've had a bit of a breakdown and am working through a lot of issues in therapy at the moment, and this is something that has come back in technicolour and I'm having trouble not being cross about.

When I was 17 I slept with my 2nd boyfriend (who I continued to date for 3 further years) and when my father found out he called me a slut. I don't think that sleeping with one person, or actually any number of people, is cause for anyone to ever be called such names, but I do have a tendency towards the oversensitive. I think it massively damaged my self-esteem and self-respect and may have contributed to my opinion of sex as something a bit revolting and sordid, though I doubt it's a standalone cause. I didn't react to it at the time as we were a very authoritarian household and my father's word wasn't to be questioned, but now 20 years on I feel like I can't forgive him for it.

AIBU in thinking it's unforgivable or am I being a bit precious?

Bugger

Zombie, sorry

Zombie thread maybe, but fuck anyone who uses that word against young women in particular. Happened to me and it is shit. But then my mother was a fucking bitch like that. Glad to report that my man has taken down a man who used that word, he fronted out a guy on the tube who called me that and dude was just a bit embarrassed. Good. Fuck him and all who think like him.

My mother told friends of hers when I lost my virginity and the Creepy, sex pest husband of hers leered over me and told me I couldn’t order the virgin colada from the menu anymore.

I will never really forgive her for that one.

That was awful OP.

My mother called me a “hwch fach” (Welsh for little sow) when she found out I’d been having sex with my boyfriend. I was 23 but still living at home. The fact that I’d gone on the pill (she found them in my drawer) made it even worse as far as she was concerned. I was born in the early 60s and she was a teenager in the 30s so very much of the “nice girls don’t until they marry” mindset.

Wow mrstweefromtweesville ur a real pos. Period.

The word slut was not commonly used 20 years ago! Certainly not by friends or family. It was a shit thing to say even in the 80s when I was a teenager and I can’t imagine my parents or other adults saying it.

It’s a horrible word to call anyone op yanbu. If my husband called my daughter it it would be his last it’s disgusting and designed to bring women down a peg, my dad was authoritarian and called me and my mother it all the time like a regular word, if we had the audacity to pass wind by accident in his vicinity he would respond with anger and vile and call us fat ugly sluts etc , any insult usually entails him calling us sluts. He wondered why as a woman I had no confidence and hated myself, my job as a parent is to build my children’s confidence and self worth

Funnily enough he has the nerve now to tell me to stop using my foul language! I wonder where I may have learned bad words, I don’t call people them however