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To cancel swimming via of pooey pants?

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JesusIsComingLookBusy · 23/05/2015 12:48

DS1 is 6 and still having lots of toilet accidents. He wets himself about 4 or 5 times a week and wears pyjama nappies at night. Last few days though we've had some pooey pants too and today is particularly bad. He's on his third pair. I've reminded him to go a few times when it's obvious he needs to but he's ignored me. We are meant to be going swimming this afternoon but I'm cancelling it primarily in case he has a tummy bug (poo looks normal though) but also as I think he needs to realise he needs to be a bit more proactive. Am I being mean?

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CactusAnnie · 25/05/2015 07:25

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 25/05/2015 07:34

Do they really? I have no idea about swim nappies. Since my DD wears them and has done for 6 years that's what people were advising.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 25/05/2015 07:34

I wouldn't take her if pooing several times either.

But the horror from people was very melodramatic.

CactusAnnie · 25/05/2015 07:37

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DustBunnyFarmer · 25/05/2015 07:56

As others have already said, your son's symptoms sound very much like chronic constipation with overflow soiling. You've already had good advice above, but I wanted to add how my son's consultant emphasised the importance of getting it sorted whilst your child is still growing rapidly as it reduces the risk of long term damage. She said if it's not managed or treated well and continues into a child's teens, it can lead to loss of bowel tone that can cause soiling as an adult whuch is much harder to fix. You owe it to your son to push much harder with your GP and ask for a referral. It took the best part of 4 years (i kid you not!) to finally get my son's drug regimen right & clearing him out effectively. I get your frustration as I've been there, but I would NEVER have asked my son to wash his pants - it would have been so shaming.

I also think you were very rude to 3littlefrogs

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 25/05/2015 07:57

I told you. Because I thought people's reaction was melodramatic .

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 25/05/2015 07:58

Anyway I am not going to bun fight and detract from OP's issue. :)

Plarail123 · 25/05/2015 08:04

Fanjo, if you had a child with this sort of problem, you would sit down.

zazzie · 25/05/2015 08:05

Ds wears neophrene swimming pants that keep poo in if it is solid. You can wear trunks over the top.

Italiangreyhound · 25/05/2015 10:06

FanjoForTheMammaries sorry if I was being melodramatic, I was operating on the assumption it could be harmful for pregnant women and I spent a lot of time in my life trying to get pregnant! But aside from any 'danger' I think the risk of extreme embarrassment in kids is quite high. My friend's child once emptied a pool by some sort of incident (not related to poo) and it was (I think) very embarrassing.

2old2beamum · 25/05/2015 10:29

Totally agree with Italian Pooing in a swimming pool contaminates the whole pool and is dangerous to certain people. DD has a very unpredictable active colostomy there is no way she goes swimming to protect other people,

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 25/05/2015 14:09

plarail. .I actually do have a child with constipation and overflow diarrhoea. And who isn't quite toilet trained and needs swim nappies. Can I stand up then please.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 25/05/2015 14:10

Or do you mean with immune problems? Well since people were telling OP to use swim nappies and loads of toddlers use them already I still think people were being dramatic. Swimming pools are a) full of chlorine and b) not the most hygienic of places.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 25/05/2015 14:12

A minor poo accident in pool would not be an enormous risk to pregnant women. (Btw I had to have an op to get pregnant so am also allowed to speak about this before I get told to sit down again)

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 25/05/2015 14:17

Anyway you can put your flamethrowers away. I said ages ago I wouldn't take my DD swimming if she was pooing lots like OPs son.

Italiangreyhound · 25/05/2015 14:35

My flame thrower is away!

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 25/05/2015 14:40

Thank goodness

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 25/05/2015 14:41

Will keep flameproof suit on for a while though

Nessarosehas4 · 25/05/2015 14:51

Could someone please put a link up for eric website please? Tried to google but bf ds 3. Thanks.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 25/05/2015 14:53

www.eric.org.uk

Nessarosehas4 · 25/05/2015 15:13

Thanks Fanjo.

Sazzlestick123 · 22/03/2017 06:12

Does anyone have an update on their situation from this, we have a 7 year old doing this still. All triggered by starting school - it got better for a while then has got worse. He still isn't dry at night but since increasing the movicol he's leaking outside his nighttime pants every night. I am literally at my wits end. Doctor and school nurse have no time and just point us to movicol. It is now effecting our whole family and not mention my poor little boy. I have to get tough now to get the help we need. Apart from this he is happy and healthy - it's so distressing to feel out of control as a parent. Stool impaction sounds the most probable and I am not leaving the GP today until I get a proper referral for him. Any help, advice or positive outcomes would be appreciated!

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