to think people shouldn't assume I'm a teen parent?

[herdwicksheep]

I'm 23 with a 10 month old DS. I have an incredibly young looking face and people often think I'm around 15. I struggle with people knocking on my door and asking if my Mum and Dad are home, most recently I got asked for ID to pick up medication for my dog from the vet .

Since DS was born (and throughout pregnancy) I have endured endless dirty looks and comments about being a "teen parent". I find it incredibly hard to make friends with other Mums because I look so young and I feel like I am being judged.

AIBU to expect people to not be so judgemental? I really feel for the genuine teen parents out there...

I am outraged that people would feel they were justified in making judgemental comments to teen mums. It's so horrible. It must be a struggle for many really young mums, but to have to put up with disapproval and dirty looks is the last thing they need.

As for looking younger, you will appreciate it eventually. I look a lot younger and used to be annoying like getting ID'd buying paracetamol in my 30s. I like it now.

As for looking younger, you will appreciate it eventually. I look a lot younger and used to be annoying like getting ID'd buying paracetamol in my 30s. I like it now.

If it carries on.

I am worried i'm about to go from 'think 25' to crowsfeet in a year. My forehead is corrugating minute by minute

Gosh, I think I might have been guilty of this. Not judgement- I wouldn't judge a teenage mum (other than to think that I wouldn't have liked to be in that situation). But I used to live in an area with a high number if very young mums (under 19 or 20). I stopped going to the children's centre because I couldn't find anything in common with anyone. I as 27 when I had my first, but I felt so bloody old.
God I hope they didn't think I was judging them though. I as just feeling lonely and vulnerable and I wanted some mum friends.

I guess you might have to work a bit harder when meeting potential friends so that they realise their assumptions are wrong.

Sorry, I don't mean to imply that you aren't working hard to make friends. You just might need to be quite bold.

You don't want to be friends with judgemental bitches anyway though, right?

I had dd1 at 23 but looked a lot younger. At the hospital I was chatting to a student midwife as she was showing me how to bath dd, and mentioned I was a student too. She asked if I was at 'one of those schools for teen mums!'.

I also felt judged at baby groups so didn't really go much.

However I'm 34 now and most people guess my age at somewhere in my twenties. I'm happy with that.

I was almost 20 when ds was born. people on the ward didnt treat me badly as such but took me under their wing and babied me! One woman thought i was 15! Now i am 41 and look between 30 or 33 oldest estimate. It was hard when younger as people would be judgemental but when i go out now with my 19 yo DD people think we are sister and i guess we act that way too!