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Original poster

To be so offended?

51 replies

MrsNextDoor · 21/05/2015 13:12

Just phoned DH up at work to tell him that I've packed a lot of our things and sent more to charity in preparation for our move.

As I was talking I realised that a strange voice was commenting "Yeah? Yeah? Right?"

And realised he'd put the phone on speaker and was laughing as his workmate had walked in and was speaking.

I am SO fucking offended. It felt like I'd be embarrassed massively! AIBU though? I know I wasn't speaking about anything personal but I COULD have and it seems so invasive. I put the phone down after telling him I was very offended.

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MrsNextDoor · 21/05/2015 13:17

Bump

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LazyLouLou · 21/05/2015 13:20

Put his favourite something in one of those bags... and laugh your socks off when he complains!

But, on the off chance that it wasn't him who answered his phone, ask him what he thought he was doing, first!

1Morewineplease · 21/05/2015 13:21

I'd be absolutely livid!!! Sooo disrespectful!!!

Seriouslyffs · 21/05/2015 13:21

Was it on speakerphone to get a laugh? I'd not be impressed.
If I'm using hands free I answer, 'seriously here you're on speakerphone!'

WalterMittyish · 21/05/2015 13:21

Why did you bump the thread just 5 minutes after posting it? Confused

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MrsNextDoor · 21/05/2015 13:21

He's just texted "Sorry for the social misdemeanor" which in my mind means he's still taking the piss and minimizing! .

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MrsNextDoor · 21/05/2015 13:22

Walter why did you ask such a pointless question as though it affects you personally? Confused

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gabsdot45 · 21/05/2015 13:22

If you have someone on speaker, you should tell them. YANBU

VelvetRose · 21/05/2015 13:23

Twattish behaviour, no doubt about that at all.

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MrsNextDoor · 21/05/2015 13:23

seriously yes!

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mrsfuzzy · 21/05/2015 13:24

he's been a bit of a prat but it's nothing major at the end of the day.

RachelWatts · 21/05/2015 13:24

Putting someone on speakerphone without telling them is really disrespectful.

I remember a work colleague had told me she'd had an argument with her teenage son about it, as he'd put his girlfriend on speakerphone without telling her the rest of the family could hear her, and the poor girl had said something not intended to be overheard.

WalterMittyish · 21/05/2015 13:25

Wow! Any need to be so rude, OP? It was a genuine question - why bump the thread minutes after posting it? Did you think no one had seen it?

You're pissed off at your husband, not me, sweetheart, so watch which direction you spit your bile in.

VelvetRose · 21/05/2015 13:27

Because she was keen to hear people's responses I guess Walter.

It's really horrible behaviour. Making fun of your wife to look "big" or whatever in front of colleagues! Very silly indeed.

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MrsNextDoor · 21/05/2015 13:28

Walter don't patronise me. I don't want your weird questions or comments so I'll ignore you from now on.

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SumThucker · 21/05/2015 13:30

I think it's disrespectful to you, yes.

I also found it strange you bumped the thread just 5 minutes later, sorry.

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MrsNextDoor · 21/05/2015 13:30

Thank you to all who let me know I wasn't unreasonable to be upset. DH just called to say sorry. He was chatting to me when the collegaue came in and did the commenting thing. He agreed that he should have stopped him immediately. I'm a bit over emotional as we're getting ready to leave the country....things are a bit odd for me due to this...packing up all the children's toys and things is making me feel sensitive.x

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Feminine · 21/05/2015 13:34

Not nice mrs
Your husband has been disrespectful to you. Plus, unprofessional at work.

Feminine · 21/05/2015 13:35

Where are you moving to?

WalterMittyish · 21/05/2015 13:36

Ignore away. Sounds like you've got far greater things to worry about in your life right now than a stranger on the Internet. Good luck.

RedRugNoniMouldiesEtc · 21/05/2015 13:38

Walter, people bump because threads fall off active conversations within a minute. most people use active conversations so, if you want the thread seen, you bump. Simple, acceptable, not requiring passive aggressive questioning.

Ejzuudjej · 21/05/2015 13:39

Once you clocked you were on speakerphone you should have started talking about something that would embarrass your DH - poor bedroom performance perhaps? Or that new job he was interviewing for?

The5DayChicken · 21/05/2015 13:43

I thought the 5 minute bump was weird too. Do most people really use active convos? Most long-term MN posters I can think of seem to have their 'haunts'.

lunar1 · 21/05/2015 13:44

Dh does this to me all the time as his phone is often answered by someone else and put on speaker. Last year I told a theatre full of people about the Christmas shopping is done that day. I only realised when a nurse shouted oooh where did you get that my ds would love one!

I always check now if he's on his own or not!

Ejzuudjej · 21/05/2015 13:48

The five minute bump is not at all strange to me and I can't work out why we're even discussing it Confused