To be so offended?

[MrsNextDoor]

Just phoned DH up at work to tell him that I've packed a lot of our things and sent more to charity in preparation for our move.

As I was talking I realised that a strange voice was commenting "Yeah? Yeah? Right?"

And realised he'd put the phone on speaker and was laughing as his workmate had walked in and was speaking.

I am SO fucking offended. It felt like I'd be embarrassed massively! AIBU though? I know I wasn't speaking about anything personal but I COULD have and it seems so invasive. I put the phone down after telling him I was very offended.

The five minute bump is not at all strange to me and I can't work out why we're even discussing it

Erm...

Chicken, lots of regulars have haunts but the recognisable names make up a fraction of the users.

Sorry op, I didn't respond to you! Yanbu, using speaker phone is rude if you don't announce it Imo.

The putting you on speaker phone without telling you is bloody rude.

The bumping thread when you are upset is not weird

The picking on op for bumping is unnecessary and antagonistic

not requiring passive aggressive questioning

I think using the phrase passive aggressive, is often passive aggressive.
Seriously,..I hate it.

Yes, me too

Just answering the ops question or ignoring her would have avoiding passive aggression all together.

The picking on op

She was asked why, once. After she decided not to simply answer ''because I needed an answer urgently'', or whatever, and instead asked a question in return, I agreed it seemed strange.

Hardly ''picking on''.

Well why did people think she bumped the thread? It was totally unnecessary to ask.

Because all of 5 minutes had passed? Not enough time for it to fall completely down the page.
I can understand a bump after half an hour, or if your AIBU is so pressing as to warrant a reply immediately.
Was she expecting anyone to reply, ''No, sounds perfectly reasonable to share your conversation with a workmate''.
Hardly an AIBU which would split opinion, I believe.

It doesn't really matter why the thread was bumped,..and it doesn't really matter that someone asked.

Bump

because I can

Of all the shit going on in all the world or even in your personal little square of the world someone bumping a thread within 1 or 3 or 5 or 30 minutes is a complete non-event. Clearly the OP is upset - whether anyone else would get upset in the circumstances is wholly unimportant - so she bumped the thread. Note - she bumped the thread. She didn't post you fresh poo or vomit on your new shoes or leave toenails clippings in your bed. She bumped a thread. Nobody is hurt, bleeding or mortally offended by that so no comment was necessary.
OP - I would have been pissed off too but my DH wouldn't have done that because he knows very well that I have a small problem with potty-mouth syndrome and I'm quite sure he doesn't want a whole bunch of consultants and doctors to hear that!
Good luck with your move

My initial reaction is, why are you disturbing your DH at work to tell him that? Do you often call him at work?

Oh come on. If you're going to be a bit of a tit at least own it.

'Why are you bumping the thread' is irrelevant and snarky and serves zero purpose other than to pick a minor point.
What possible answer is there other than 'I'm upset' .

at disturbing DH at work when he put her on speaker phone whilst pissing about with a colleague.

I use active convos, yes

Being put on speakerphone isn't something I could get particularly worked up about Pag.

Being interrupted at work by DH for no good reason is.

Bump!

I'd be irritated at being put on speakerphone without knowing. It's rude.
Maybe individuals may not mind but it's a basic principle that one should be aware if others are effectively overhearing your conversation.

And neither I nor DH have ever given a toss about being called at work as we are both able to say 'I can't talk just now. I'll call you back.'
I don't think that's unusual.

if he was at work in his office with door closed and/or no one around, and had you on speaker, thats ok -
he should have said that he had company or aknowledged the colleague as they walked in. or picked up the phone - but its a small annoyance, nowhere near worthy of

"I am SO fucking offended. It felt like I'd be embarrassed massively! AIBU though? I know I wasn't speaking about anything personal but I COULD have and it seems so invasive. I put the phone down after telling him I was very offended."

unless you were discussing last nights bedroom action, and really not enough to be posting (and bumping after 5 mins) so from me, thats a definate YABVU

I think it wasn't that big a deal OP and I think you might be a tad over-sensitive with all that's going on at the moment.

Unclench a bit if you can

^ that was my gentlest way of saying YABU by the way

oh fuck it - lets just skip right to LTB

ok?

Wait - was he on his own in a private office when you rang and put the phone on speakerphone so he could do something (carry on working) while talking to you? Then a colleague opened the door and came into the room and started speaking?

If that's the scenario, then it's very different from him putting you on speakerphone in an open plan office full of people. He should have interrupted you and told you someone had come into the room, but it's more of a mistake than deliberate rudeness.

Why do think she sodding bumped the thread?

OP, what a twat but at least he apologised. I am stunned at the childish humour that Dh comes out with sometimes, gives me the real hump. I console myself by flicking him the V's behind his back

I think you overreacted, I would have laughed! But you admit to why you're feeling sensitive and it makes sense, I was the same when I moved abroad. Scary but exciting times ahead