To think this Holland And Barrett Member Of Staff should be sacked

[Jacobsmum1972]

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3086328/Schoolgirl-close-tears-Holland-Barrett-shop-assistant-said-just-eat-eat-eat.html

I know it's a Mail link, but it was the original story.

I also think that the mum should not let her daughter buy diet pills, but the staff was out of order.

Also fought mail loved to fat shame people.

I haven't read it - but the fact that you chose to say 'I know it's in the Mail' would suggest even you doubt its veracity (otherwise why mention it - thanks for the heads up, though).

So, given all that, I don't think you can logically conclude anyone should be sacked

If i was her mother i would have been concerned that she was buying diet pills with her boyfriend!!

YABU, I don't believe she should be sacked unless there is a proof.

Fought?

You're being far too reasonable OP.

I think we should jab the H&B assistant into a furnace with pointy sticks.

Having shopped in the Whitgift many times, I have no trouble believing shop assistants there would be that rude. Not saying this person did say what's reported, but it wouldn't surprise me!

As for her not 'looking' a size 12...according to the BMI, I'm 3-4 stone over what they consider normal weight (in fact I think I'm obese on their classification) and I'm a size 14. So I don't see why she's not a 12.

"Unless there was a recording, it's all "he said, she said""

I used to work in the governance team for an OOH GP service. The initial contact with a GP is via the phone. We'd sometimes get complaints in from patients and we'd then ask the GP for their version of events. It could be very difficult to marry the two versions. Then when you pieced them together with the call recording you realised that the patient's version of the conversation was a sort of distorted mirror version of the actual conversation. The GP's version was also distorted, just in a rather different way.

Anyway, it's deeply unreasonable to want someone sacked because of a story in the DM. Just let her employer go through due procedure. Makes a dull headline but is actually fair to the employee.

An Inspector Calls.......

Anyone who goes rushing to a newspaper with a story like this is a drama queen. And drama queens always exaggerate for maximum effect.

Sorry, meant to add, at this state the girl has probably convinced herself that this is what the assistant said.

'at this stage not state

From that picture she really doesn't look like a size 12 but it may be a bad angle or outfit...

That's beside the point though. It's her word against the shop assistants ultimately. If she was genuinely devastated by it I highly doubt she'd want it published in national news. I mean, think of something nasty someone said about you at a similar age. You go home and cry or complain to your mum or you do it to your friends, you wouldn't want the whole frigging country to hear about it! It's just blown way, way out of proportion.

I must re-read that, Frances. It's been years.

The whole size thing is irrelevant anyway. Sizes aren't standardized so if you're a 10 in one shop you can be a 14 in another. Plus if you're 5' 2" or 5' 10" you could fit into the same size 12 garment but one of you would look proportionally rather heavier than the other.

I can't believe this is the sort of nonsense that makes national newspapers

That picture could be misleading- she's got a large chest and broad shoulders, I was a swimmer till I developed my 34ff chest. I hate it as bib boobs make you look bigger than you,are, especially in loose tops, but you,don't want to wear tight tops especially at that age cos then you get harassed.

I also wondered if what the employee said was different to what has been said to the papers.
I worked in retail for years and the things people said myself or staff had said that actually had never been said
Used to piss me off as things lije this get people the sack.

Plus if i were her mother and my daughter were that embarrassed no way would i be bringing more attention on her, by going to the papers!
I'd be more concerned also that my daughter was that unhappy with herself she was buying diet pills.

OP, really?

'He said, she said' is not enough to support a termination of contract, that is basic common sense.

What on earth is the mother thinking, running to the papers like that especially the Daily Fail?

If anything H&B look good as they have been generous in a situation which cannot be proven without audio recordings of the conversation that was had. The mother, however, comes across as a bit of a bull in china shop type with PFB syndrome.

YABU.