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Is posting a two minute interview of your 2and 1/2 year old daughter sitting on the toilet going too far ?

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Hope2003 · 19/05/2015 18:13

I've been watching a family on YouTube but I've become increasingly uncomfortable with what they do :( Am I wrong in thinking it's voyeuristic to the extreme especially this video ?
I mean the toilet seriously [confusedm.youtube.com/#/watch?v=d00MegenWHc

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Hope2003 · 19/05/2015 22:26

Yes you are I totally get it Smile
A post FUMN Ii think said this child has been filmed in her bath and features on some unsavoury sites .That to me is exploitation .I'm shocked that her parents still film her .If you add up 20 mins everyday for 2years 8 months that's more than most child stars isn't that crazy ?

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DottyStripes · 19/05/2015 22:32

It is crazy, though child stars had quite a different experience to being at home with their family going about having their daily lives filmed, child stars knew they were the performing monkey and needed to sing the right note/move the right moves whereas these kids will only figure out later on in their lives that they were on show throughout. What's that film again where the guy is on a show but doesn't know it?!

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Hope2003 · 19/05/2015 22:34

The Truman Show ?

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Hope2003 · 19/05/2015 22:36

But child stars get a break and are protected by law right ?They don't have someone shoving a camera in their face even in the bathroom Confused

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FUNM · 19/05/2015 23:03

Current child performance legislation does not protect these kids who are technically working 24/7 as they are filmed at any moment of the day. i am surprised there hasn't been more debate in the media.

DottyStripes · 19/05/2015 23:42

Yup the trueman show that's it, all these kids are in their own trueman show. I do think if parents earn money from it it should be legislated and really go into the child's own account

But I think regardless of any earnings, it may prove to be damaging - time will tell.

In the meantime the only thing I can do as a parent is limit how much I expose my kids on social media (personally near zilch) however this then causes offence and some very to my mind disturbing questions "aren't you proud of him?" "don't you want to show him off?" "I never get to see any photos of your DC, that's not fair Dotty" there's some unwritten rule atm that if your ?proud of your DC you most parade them on the internet. It's odd we have an issue when this extends to other areas of life - tons don't agree with beauty pageants or child modelling

DottyStripes · 19/05/2015 23:45

I kind of wish this was an AIBU because I think you'd get a faster debate there lol

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Hope2003 · 20/05/2015 06:54

I agree wholeheartedly with you both and thank you for the very civilized convo.I myself only allowed my son a FB account when he was 15 and will do the same with DS2 .I feel they are not ready to be judged by the world at an early age (some never are ) but the peer pressure wins out .I'm still not convinced a public profile is a good thing .I was shocked again last night when someone pointed out to me that these patents have been stalked and threatened very very scary .I believe protection is your first priority as a parent but then again I'm old fashioned [blush
Dotty AIBU ?Smile

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Hope2003 · 20/05/2015 16:43

Thanks to MNHQ for moving this to the AIBU thread.x

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DottyStripes · 20/05/2015 20:20

Yes, I think some parents just don't see it as dangerous though as its so normalised, so not so much that they aren't trying to protect their kids, it just hasn't occurred that it might not be sensible - because everyone does it so perhaps they feel entitled to do it regardless of negative attention

Hope more are along to discuss soon

Mintyy · 20/05/2015 20:27

Yanbu, although this whole thread is completely bizarre.

I am oldish and hate that people put so much dross about their ordinary lives up on the internet, and that others are willing to be entertained by it.

What happened to a nice book or game of Cluedo?

PattiODoors · 20/05/2015 20:31

I know, Minters. I am a real old fogey

KleineDracheKokosnuss · 20/05/2015 20:35

I worry about how much people put on the net for access by anyone and everyone. It's hard to be 'forgotten' by the Internet (even with the advent of the so-called right to be forgotten), and I worry that some of the children who's pictures and videos are put up will find them a great hinderance when they try to get jobs, or seek public office, or just want to present their own image to their girlfriend's parents as opposed to the one her dad finds by just Googling their name, etc.

RubieWoo · 20/05/2015 21:56

Are you a gurugossiper OP?

DottyStripes · 20/05/2015 22:07

Not the OP, what on earth is a gurugossiper?!

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Hope2003 · 20/05/2015 22:19

I'm not very social media savvy what is a gurugossiper ?

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FUNM · 21/05/2015 13:07

maybe it is some site for ayurvedic therapists to share info?

Feminine · 21/05/2015 13:42

Some people are so enamoured with their families. They feel they might just burst if they don't share it with someone!
Or millions...
And some people are so fascinated by others that they oblige by watching!

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Hope2003 · 21/05/2015 14:31

Yes but when is it too much ?Can a child like this have a normal safe childhood ?Or are her parents being irresponsible/naive in believing this won't effect her future ?

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Feminine · 21/05/2015 14:50

I think only time will tell.
It is very in to display families these days... Worts n' all.
Sometimes (esp on YouTube) the motivation is money.
I think the child will be safe as a child. In the future though?

VelvetRose · 21/05/2015 14:57

I was discussing this sort of thing with my 12 year old dd last week. She enjoys following some of those family vlog type things but I think they are overly intrusive and unfair on the kids involved.

IKnowIAmButWhatAreYou · 21/05/2015 15:16

If my husband posted a video on my daughter on the internet for everyone to see I would be filing for divorce. No normal mother would accept such humiliation of her child in the public domain.

Grin

Google "kid on loo" and look at the pictures......

In the old days it used to be called cute, now it's just Paedo-Bait according to some people. If it's fairly tasteful and not abusive then fair enough, it's the parents decision at the end of the day....

Feminine · 21/05/2015 16:09

I do question the motive of the parents.
Why do they think their families are so interesting.
Why also, do people settle for this form of entertainment?
Confused

RubieWoo · 21/05/2015 17:06

Gurugossip is a forum site, where posters ''gossip'' about YouTube personalities. This family are on there. The same arguement is going on on there so I wondered if OP was bring that BS over on to Mumsnet.

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Hope2003 · 21/05/2015 19:32

Rubiewoo are you saying my question is BS ?Mumsnet is a forum for people to ask questions no ?I really believe it's valid especially in the times we live .Am I not allowed talk about these people ?
I am as a mother and Irish person truly concerned on where this YouTube Career is going .The children have no rights to privacy or protection .Heres another one "Is posting a picture on social media of this child in the bath with her father too far "?

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