Am I being a bridezilla? Dh just wants to get wrecked on our wedding night!!

[MaiaThai]

So the venue of our wedding serves both the reception and the ceremony. All good. Afterwards we stay in their own bridal sweet. Ace.
However I'm becomming more and more anxious that my wedding night will encorporate watching my new DH becoming more and more hammered as the night goes on before I go off to bed on my own and leave him to it. All his family and friends like a good drink and now members of his family are starting to book rooms at the venue. One of them joked they didn't want to hear us having sex so dp said something about he'd be far too drunk and would probably be stuck in the bar with his mates long after I have given up on the night.
Great! How romantic. Is this today's 'normal'? Am I being a bridezilla in insisting that we keep a lid on the drink and at least 'retire' together on the night of our wedding?

Its 2015 and i seriously doubt its the first time the two of you will be having sex.

Whereas since he will be losing his "getting pissed with people I know" virginity, you should definitely prioritise that.

Sounds like every Scottish and Irish wedding I've ever been to

Do you think that he really meant it, or was he joking? Does that happen on a normal night out (especially with his family)? If it was just bravado speaking I wouldn't worry. If it is likely to happen at every family gathering I would have alarm bells ringing. What will he be like when you have kids? Will he be off pissed with his mates at family dos while you organise the children etc.

It all sounds a bit Big Fat Gypsy Wedding -esque!

Mine got pissed out of his skull.

I hated my wedding because of that.

are you my dfriend?? These are her fiance's intentions too... I couldn't be with someone who thought that attitude was ok, or who pretended to for their mates. It's disgusting.

Yanbu, the bottom line is you have very different ideas on how to end your wedding day.
I can totally understand, if he really wants to end his day getting pissed in the bar it says he'd rather be in bar company.
You need to talk to him and see if he is serious, this would make me feel pretty shitty.

Even if you stay up together you should be "retiring" at he same time. It's your wedding day.