To think coming for dinner and announcing you're 'full' is bloody rude

[balletnotlacrosse]

I was at a friend's house for dinner on Sat. She had invited another couple who, on arrival, said that they'd been at a nephew's First Communion that afternoon and had come straight on from there.
Then, when we sat down for dinner they both announced that they'd spent the afternoon 'stuffing' themselves with hot dogs, cakes etc at the Communion party and would just have a tiny portion of dinner and no pudding. My friend was quite annoyed when I went out to the kitchen to help her serve up and said she'd spent ages shopping and cooking the meal and now hardly any of it would be eaten. I totally sympathised as I've had that happen to me once or twice and it's both disappointing and annoying when guests make you feel all your effort has gone to waste.

AIBU to think it's really rude to accept a dinner invitation and then arrive too full to eat?

This has reminded me of a couple I was friends with for a while - don't think I was ever invited to their flat but I invited them a few times for dinner - on each occasion they would either say they weren't hungry or just pick at the food and leave masses. One occasion it was NYE 2000 so the big millennium one and I'd really made an effort. That did it and I never asked them again.

True also the thing about being invited somewhere for a special occasion and not being offered so much as a cup of tea. That's happened to me and I found it so very odd.

I did this once, but I am ashamed to say that I said I was full because the food we were given was so not my taste that I really struggled to eat it.

In this case, the hostess is actually a very good cook and had prepared a lovely meal. The couple announced they didn't really want much before they even knew what was on offer. I don't think it was down to any particular fussiness or anything like that. Just bad manners.

PattiOdoors you should invite them round again but just serve baby portions of food on huge plates!

Yes it's obviously rude! They should have remained silent and gotten on with the business of eating supper.

Oh! I've been the hateful rude person who has done this!

In my defence, I did explain that I was going out for a friend's birthday lunch before going to my friend for dinner, I'd already accepted the invite to the birthday lunch. I told my friend I wouldn't need A big dinner. Birthday lunch was at a pizza restaurant, I was hoping to get away with a salad and diet coke but it was a set menu, and I got swept up in the yay we are celebrating lets pig out vibe

I arrived late to my friends dinner, full of pizza and garlic bread and ice cream, and could barely eat anything.

Friend was really upset. I'm the worst

singlikethepiano you had at least warned your friend, even if you should have exercised some restraint!

I don't understand why people accept two invitations to meals out on the same day, unless it's absolutely unavoidable.

Surely logic would tell you that you're going to end up not eating the second meal. Fine if you're meeting friends in a restaurant as it's no odds to them if you just have a dessert and a couple of glasses of wine. But it's really rude to allow someone to cook you a meal that you know you won't be able to eat.

Why not just decline because you already have something on that day. Or, if you have to show your face to be polite, make it clear that you'll have eaten and will just be joining everyone for a glass of wine.

Oh yes this makes me RAGE
I invited my friend and her 4 children and husband to join DS and I (so 6 of them). They accepted and I asked what time suited them and did everything to THEIR schedule and cooked a huge curry and rice, plus ordered in the bits too tough to cook and the favourites I couldn't do.
They arrived and said the kids weren't hungry as she had given them fish and chips an hour earlier!!!! Why the fuck accept then do that?? I had cooked for 8...
Grrrrrrr

I find it rude when my teens come to the table only to announce they've eaten so many snacks during the afternoon that they aren't hungry any more.

If I had made a huge effort to cook something extra special for an 'invite-only' dinner and my friends did that to me, I'd be livid!

Extremely rude! Along the same lines, my brother went to Tesco right before my wedding breakfast - after the church ceremony, so he missed the photos. To go to bloody Tesco for a sandwich.

He then announced that he was too full for the wedding breakfast. Some people are just bizarre like that...