A quick context: my PIL
live 3 hours away and are retired; my parents are 1 1/2 hours away but on holiday (booked before knew I was pregnant) I'm expecting baby number 2 any day now. We never ask for help, no weekend babysitting etc. we always have to travel to PIL. This time I need someone to look after DD1 whilst DH and I at hospital so MIL offered to come up- i'm having planned c-section so no middle of night journeys/panics. So far so good except DH called her earlier about something else and she said she's only staying a few days now, (won't be specific, said "playing it by ear"), not fortnight she originally said. Doesn't think we need to know how long she might stay. No reason given. I'm sure we can cope but I'm upset as I feel like we're being an inconvenience for her and it also means she'll miss DD1's birthday which is week after c-section which she obviously knows. DD wasn't allowed to visit them at Easter as she had chicken pox- even though I said no risk to them as PIL both have had it. she has also made comments about how she doesn't like being away from home, our routine is different etc. (she lives in a small village and has set shopping days etc). When I told her I was having c-section, she's said she doesn't know anything about them and I'll have to deal with that- I've given her outline that I'll need more support etc and that i'd love for her just to be here to play with DD, DH will do housework etc. AIBU in just expecting her to be excited about arrival of grandchild and not making a fuss about helping on this one occasion? I'm tempted to just ask a friend to look after DD1 for one day, who I know wouldn't mind, but thought it would be nice if family helped. AIBU and too hormonal?