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AIBU?

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Me vs nursery, AIBU?

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Ilovenannyplum · 15/05/2015 12:14

AIBU to be a bit very annoyed about this?

DS is currently going to settling in sessions at nursery, I start back at work in June.
We originally signed up for 4 days but since then I've managed to find a new job that is less days so we will now only require 2 days at nursery.
They have a 30 days notice period which is fine, I'm happy to suck it up for the first month pay the higher amount and then go down to the lower 2 days p/w cost next month.

My partner calls the nursery to let them know, spoke to the owner, he was really rude to him, and has said he'll have to check his waiting lists (they don't have waiting lists, its first come first serve, he told me that when I signed up and I've just asked when I picked DS up and the receptionist confirmed there isn't one) and that he's not sure he'll be able to do it as he has "lots of people waiting for a 5 day sign up" and to email and he'll get back to us.

Now I'm annoyed as we gave him the notice as required, he's lying about a waiting list, hardly any of the other babies are full time so I don't see why it's such an issue for us to drop days and that DS has actually been attending sessions there and just started to be more comfortable, the nursery nurses are really nice and I do feel happy leaving him with them, it just seems he wants DS out on the off chance that another family call in and want more days than me. But can he do that??
The chances of me finding alternate childcare in time for me starting work are basically impossible if he does decide he can't accommodate it.
So AIBU? What do I do?!

OP posts:
icelollycraving · 15/05/2015 19:18

Most nurseries require nappies Hmm
I'd be over the moon to pay £25 a day. Wraparound care when ds starts school will be more than that. You seem v v angry.
Back to op,glad you got it sorted. I did think yababitu. The owner will basically have half the business he thought,whilst it happens,he's entitled to a bit pissed off that you're moving the goal posts so soon.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 15/05/2015 19:32

The very fact that you said he was rude to your DH is more than enough for me. What else will he be rude about in the future. Heaven forbid if you go in there about any concerns that you may one day have about his development. There is never any excuse fir rudeness. No matter how inconvenienced someone has been.
Is there not the option of putting him in an alternative setting. I know I couldn't personally leave my baby in a place where some one was rude to myself and my partner thus displaying the highest of unprofessionalism.
Also if he lied about the waiting list. what else will he lie about.

HaloKelly23 · 15/05/2015 19:36

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gutzgutz · 15/05/2015 19:50

Totally off topic but all nurseries/ childminders I know of here ask for nappies. Then parents are free to give Supermarket own or top brand as they choose rather than parents paying for a brand they may not like. Makes sense to me.

Back on topic, I'm glad it's sorted for your OP. Makes me realise how fantastic my nursery was, I went through a period of 6 months chopping and changing days due to training in a new job. Paid the same.

RosaGertrudeJekyll · 15/05/2015 19:57

Its a business isn't it Grey Farms and Baby Farms.
I would not be giving my business to someone who was this rude.

icelollycraving · 15/05/2015 20:10

Well I've never looked at one that provided nappies for free. There was one that provided them at huge cost. The good thing about providing your own is that your child gets the ones you use at home etc.
I'm not a cunt but you're entitled to your opinion.

SunsetSongster · 15/05/2015 20:17

There was a Guardian article recently about nursery costs [http://www.theguardian.com/money/2015/mar/28/9000-childcare-parents-nursery-fees here]].

My nursery is lovely but expensive. The owner openly says she doesn't think kiss should go more than 3 days fulltime which makes me feel shit as my DS did.

SunsetSongster · 15/05/2015 20:19

link fail

breadstixandhommus · 15/05/2015 20:19

Seriously slipped halo what is your problem?!

The OP has come back and said it's sorted, if you want to rant/spout/insult posters over your hatred for nurseries then fuck off and start your own thread.

And go to a childminder.

insancerre · 16/05/2015 07:12

What's wrong with nurseries making a profit?
They are a business and that is the whole point.
Nobody complains about the banks or the supermarkets or the gyms or the pubs making a profit
Why is it wrong that nurseries do?
Halo if you don't want to pay the nursery then don't. Give up your job and look after your child yourself
£25 a day is hardly raking it in

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