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Original poster

to give my ukip supporting daily mail reading mil some home truths next time she goes on about benefit scroungers

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milisdrivingmecrazy · 15/05/2015 07:49

Mil is constantly going on about other people that are coming over here and living on benefits. She's the typical daily mail reading ukip supporter.

She's welcome to her stupid views, however she's never worked, fair enough was from a generation where women didn't. But for over 15 years she's been on a full station pension, had all her rent paid for and most not her council tax paid. Her mum lived until 96 and she keeps saying she'll be come a centurian. That would mean 40 years on benefits - probably well over 500'000k and she's never worked but keeps going on about other people being benefits scroungers!

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cleanmyhouse · 15/05/2015 07:54

Does she really think she'll become a centurian? Cool.

flora717 · 15/05/2015 07:56

Gladius & lorica?

ilovesooty · 15/05/2015 07:57

What's a station pension?

ilovesooty · 15/05/2015 07:59

Oh, and did her contribution to running the home in the days when there were no labour saving devices mean nothing?

FenellaFellorick · 15/05/2015 07:59

I would.

She'll likely just tell you it's different though. Or get really pissed off.

Icimoi · 15/05/2015 08:02

It is a fact that one of the best ways to annoy Mail supporters is to point out that the biggest slice of the benefits bill is attributable to pensions.

DampAndRotten · 15/05/2015 08:04

Do it!

OrangeVase · 15/05/2015 08:04

It might be better to leave her to her views. You are unlikely to educate her. She sees the world from her point of view - you see it from yours. The important thing is that she is your DH's mother and so part of your family.

Next time she talks about something you don't agree with change the subject.

CombineBananaFister · 15/05/2015 08:05

I can understand why you'd be annoyed but not sure what you will achieve by pointing out the hypocrisy? It's not going to 'enlighten' her as she's perfectly aware of her financial situation so will probably just cause a massive row
I follow my nanas advice and I don't touch politics, religion, sex conversations within certain circles Grin

fwiw my MIL and BIL keep posting anti-tory stuff on FB and getting pretty aggressive about it with their friends but neither registered to even vote - some peoples logic s just not worth entertaining

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milisdrivingmecrazy · 15/05/2015 08:12

Thanks, I know I'm best to ignore it and she won't listen at all, just needed to vent after yesterday.

Totally right I will just carry on saying nothing aloud, while thinking a lot about her in my head!

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milisdrivingmecrazy · 15/05/2015 08:14

Ha good point icimoi, I think JSA is something like 2% of the benefits bill although mail readers think it is 98% !

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RiskManagement · 15/05/2015 08:17

Oh I get this too. MIl is constantly going on about how they've worked hard all their lives, when she actually hasn't worked since DH was born 50 years ago. I get the contribution to home etc, but 30 years after DC left home?

I really struggle to bite my tongue when she starts about immigration ad refugees. DH's GPs have foreign Christian names, as their families came here as refugees after the war and no-one even seems to notice the irony....

singlikethepianoMargot · 15/05/2015 08:22

Theres no point. Because there is a massive difference between what she perceives as benefit scroungers - people who do not contribute to society, are not working or supported by someone who is, and claim benefits because they are lazy, and her situation which is someone who worked hard raising a family and was supported, I assume, by a husband who worked, and is now retired.

Her ignorance is not in her hypocrisy - as there is none as far as in can see - but in her lack of understanding about the actual number of people who simply do not work and claim benefits because they prefer to scrounge than do anything else. She is one of the many brainwashed masses who believe there are swarms of people living a life of luxury courtesy of tax payers, and this simply isn't true. But you will never convince her of that. Your one voice is not going to over ride the millions of media, press, politicians voices that she has let infiltrate her opinions. And all you will do is cause tension.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 15/05/2015 08:33

Hipocracy. Drives me bloody mad.
There's s women by me. Who said. To me
I think that's a good idea what they're thinking of doing limiting the child benefit to 2 kids. That'll stop women having bits of babies.
Oh and I think benefit scroungers should be Made to do work on the community.
Now this wasn't said by someone in a semi detached house who has worked all their lives, and paid taxes, some would say he/she had a point. No it was made by a women with 5 kids who hasn't worked since her eldest was born.
I was too stunned to say anything, I just gave her that look!

DoraGora · 15/05/2015 08:45

I think one of the reasons why people read the Daily Mail is because they like it.

JennyOnTheBlocks · 15/05/2015 08:52

You know that not going out to work isn't not working though, don't you? Parents who don't go out to work aren't unemployed, they are living on one income. That counted then as well as it does now.

If anything, I would tackle the use of the word 'scroungers' and nothing more.

She's not scrounging any more than anyone else entitled to claim state benefits.

JennyOnTheBlocks · 15/05/2015 08:54

*often living on one income.

DoraGora · 15/05/2015 08:55

Not working is not not working. I'm thinking about that. We should tell that to the judge who ordered the wife of a millionaire vet to get a job.

JennyOnTheBlocks · 15/05/2015 09:00

I'd gladly bang on about the issue, Dora Grin

SAH parents who live with their partners are not jobless, they are one half of a partnership where the arrangement is agreed and works for both parties. Or should be, but this isn't a thread about that. Yet Wink

morage · 15/05/2015 09:03

My brother and SIL are the same. Go on about the neighbours who are "benefit scroungers".Even though SIL's mum never worked all her life as a single parent after her DCs grew up, and so was on benefits. And SIL doesn't work now her DCs are older as they would loose too much working tax credit, so "its not worth it". Drives me crazy.

RiskManagement · 15/05/2015 09:05

I agree Jenny but it's when MIL goes on about how hard she's worked, when she hasn't. She's been supported by the hard work of someone else, which is what she objects to in the "benefit scroungers"

But really it's her stance on immigration that I can't bear because FIL's parents were immigrants but because they're white Europeans no-one seems to remember that.

DoraGora · 15/05/2015 09:06

The problem with jobology, the word is the job and the job is the word, and all that, is that the people saying it and writing it have jobs saying, well, saying..

in the Beginning there was a Job. And, the Job was Good.

formerbabe · 15/05/2015 09:07

Oh, and did her contribution to running the home in the days when there were no labour saving devices mean nothing

In terms of the economy... No, it means nothing.

lljkk · 15/05/2015 09:08

People can retire at 56 on full state pension?

DoraGora · 15/05/2015 09:11

In terms of the economy... No, it means nothing.

No problem. You come here and look after my kids, then. And I'll nip out to work.

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