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Is this selfish behaviour? I think so!

88 replies

SumThucker · 13/05/2015 09:04

I needed to go to the supermarket to pick up some milk. I picked a basket up in the foyer, put it in the crook of my arm like a handbag, and used my free arm to push my baby's pram.
Near the tills as you first walk in are the flowers & plants. A large shelf was filled with around 30 Golden Leylandii plants, almost 2ft high, in perfect condition, all reduced from £3 to 30p.
Deciding one would look lovely in my garden, I picked one up and placed it in my basket, but I soon realised I wouldn't be able to balance the plant in the basket and push the pram, so I reasoned I would grab the milk and butter I needed and come back for it, then I could slowly walk to the tills.
Milk & butter obtained, I began to walk back towards the front of the store and walked past two men, one pushing a trolley, filled with the leylandii plants.
I rushed to the front, hoping 'mine' would still be there, but no, they'd taken every one. Got home, slightly frothing about selfishness, only for my DP to give me Hmm eyes, claiming they were for sale and it doesn't matter if they're sold to 1 or 30 people...

Do you not think it's pretty selfish behaviour, though? To not give anyone else the chance to buy one? I do! Angry

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WorraLiberty · 13/05/2015 09:07

No, I don't Confused

How many would have been 'polite' to leave?

Theycallmemellowjello · 13/05/2015 09:09

It's selfish to bulk buy from shops in order to resell items at a profit. But bulk buying for personal use is totally fine imo.

CupidStuntSurvivor · 13/05/2015 09:09

Nope. YABU. I regularly take the last few of something in a supermarket. These places do work on a first-come basis.

AuntyMag10 · 13/05/2015 09:11

Yabu, sorry you snooze you lose.
You could have taken them initially so they were gone by the time you went back.

CrystalHaze · 13/05/2015 09:11

YABU. What if there was only one left ~ was everyone supposed to 'politely' leave it in case someone else wanted to buy it?

WhoNickedMyName · 13/05/2015 09:12

YABU.

MelanieCheeks · 13/05/2015 09:12

I don't think it's selfish, no. First come first served rule applies in supermarkets.

DancingDinosaur · 13/05/2015 09:12

Grin I think you're wrong op, But get that you are annoyed because you nearly got one but couldn't carry it. A bit irritating, but I wouldn't get het up over it.

Morelikeguidelines · 13/05/2015 09:13

Sorry, I disagree with PPs. You should never take things out of someone else's basket. (obviously if the plant was still on the shelf it would be fair game, but not in a basket).

expatinscotland · 13/05/2015 09:13

YABU.

DancingDinosaur · 13/05/2015 09:14

It wasn't taken from the basket was it? Thought op put it back. Taking from basket = rude. Taking from shelf = not rude

TwinkieTwinkle · 13/05/2015 09:15

Confused as to what you would propose? That one is always left on the shelf, that no one buys, so that everyone knows they were reduced? Hmm

ImperialBlether · 13/05/2015 09:15

I don't think it was still in her basket, Morelikeguidelines - she put it back, didn't she?

WhoNickedMyName · 13/05/2015 09:16

they didn't take it out of her basket.

AuntyMag10 · 13/05/2015 09:16

Morelike have you read the op properly. It wasn't in her basket.

WorraLiberty · 13/05/2015 09:17

I wasn't in her basket.

But even if it was, I would assume it had been abandoned by someone who changed their mind about buying it.

sharonthewaspandthewineywall · 13/05/2015 09:18

YABVU they are on sale for people to buy

CupidStuntSurvivor · 13/05/2015 09:18

Morelikeguidelines it wasn't in her basket! We all know it's not fair to go around browsing in other peoples' baskets and taking whatever we please Grin. OP had put the plant back on the shelf.

MaidOfStars · 13/05/2015 09:19

So, with both a pram and basket, are you able to only walk very slowly or rush around?

MaidOfStars · 13/05/2015 09:19

Oh, and YABU.

MyCatIsAGit · 13/05/2015 09:21

I think YABU for wanting one golden leylandii in your garden.

VelvetRose · 13/05/2015 09:22

Sorry op but Yabu especially as you weren't there at the time, in which case I would've thought it polite to as if you wanted one. As it was they saw the bargain and went for it.

wigglesrock · 13/05/2015 09:24

YABU how long would you have liked them to wait to see if anyone else wanted them?

Morelikeguidelines · 13/05/2015 09:24

Well I read and re read it and it looked to me like she put the basket down with the plant in it and headed off to get the milk. Because it doesn't say she took it out.

Perhaps op could clarify as obvs there is nothing wrong with taking the plants from the shelf. I also thought it would be a daft aibu if that was the case.

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