AIBU to be offended?

[NKfell]

Now, I've got another thread on step parenting which could have gone on here and put one about dogs on here the other day so it's entirely possible that it's me with the problem in my humongous pregnant state.

I should start by saying, I'm not usually easily offended and often eye roll people who are!

My DP's ex and Mum of DSD said "you're lucky your kids hair isn't as bad as yours- it would be a nightmare on a morning!" then said "I don't mean bad as in looks bad- your hair always looks lovely but I bet a lot work goes into it". On it's own, I think I'd have been mildly offended but it follows another statement earlier in the day of "you're lucky your kids have blue eyes, halfcaste kids with blue eyes look very cute". I did say "please don't say halfcaste- it's 2015" and she laughed and said "sorry I know I'm not PC!".

I'm mixed race (blk/whte) and I have very very curly hair that does need to be tamed and I like to think I'm successful 95% of the time.

My kids having blue eyes- well I have a strange feeling I'd find them just as beautiful with brown eyes like mine and that having blue eyes isn't more beautiful than brown.

I agree with her in so far as my children having hair as curly as mine would be epic first thing on a morning BUT...whaaa? I'm offended.

Am I being sensitive? If I am, I'm sorry because I actually hate people getting offended too easily and the PC brigade can completely get on my nerves...but, am I being sensitive?

[NKfell]

I spoke to DP about it- after all he knows her better than me!

He said he has noticed she is very aware that I'm non white and said she often brings things up to him that are irrelevant and it apparently makes him a bit uncomfortable but he thinks it's because she doesn't know anyone and has never even worked with anyone non white so she's curious about some things.

He thinks now I'm more in her life after moving in with DP I've ended up bumping into her more often so I'm noticing it more.

He thinks she's ignorant and believes some stereotypes but he said he's never heard her say halfcaste before so can only assume she was being a bit catty.

I just think that curiosities should be tended to with better manners.

[amarmai]

btw the 'oversensitive' allegation is meant to shut you up. You seem to have internalised this and apply it to yourself. MAybe some counselling for you and your kids would be good- i'd add the ex--BUT ?!

[NKfell]

amarmai what?