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To be on verge of emptying DDs bedroom

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Mrchubster · 07/05/2015 14:31

DD is 7, has never taken care of her clothes or things. Unless I tidy her room or stand over while she does it, her bedroom is a pigsty.
She has plenty of accessible storage and has been shown many, many times where things live, all to no avail.
I'm at my wits end - I have enough housework to do without permanently picking up clothes, toys, books. Yesterday for instance she pulled out all her t-shirts from a drawer and just left them in a heap. Lids off felt tips, jewellery left across floor, books everywhere. Not to mention the trail of shite she leaves in her wake across the rest of the house!
It's the lack of respect for her belongings that really gets to me. Don't get me wrong, I'm not a 'cleanzilla', DSs room isn't particularly tidy but he does at least not make such a mountain of mess.

Have tried bribes, rewards, threats.... Nothing works. Am now on verge of stripping her room bare until she gets some understanding of how to look after her things!!!!

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Superexcited · 07/05/2015 22:52

She is still little at 7, but my DS was the same at 7 and isn't any better now he is 12, if anything he is worse.
I wished I had emptied his room at 7 and just left the bare essentials because I got sick of finding piles of rotting food hidden in various places (his uneaten snacks from school which he couldn't be bothered to take to the bin). I got sick of finding dirty clothes mixed in with clean clothes.
I got sick of finding all those disgusting things related to his dirty lazy habits and I wish I had left his room sparse enough to be tidied in 2 minutes.
In hindsight, I think at 7 they are old enough to learn how to look after their room better.

JoyceDivision · 07/05/2015 23:03

I hang dcs clothes up because the rail is high and they get frustrated if they can't get the clothes on or they keep slipping off.

I tend to do a standard clean in their rooms, but then call them up and ask them to tidy it... I don't get picky how they put stuff back (eg not in a precise location) but as long as it's not just rammed somewhere odd, if they have made an effort (in their eyes, which might not be the same as mine then that's fine.

It's like asking them to fold their clothes... they're folding is terrible, but I know they have tried so I accept what they've done and don't refold itso it's not giving the message their effort a=wasn't any good.

Perseverence, practice and praise op!

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