to expect DH to get his ass up out of bed and out the house in 30 mins or less in an urgent situation???

[MummyTheGregor]

Gaaaaaahhhhhhhhh!!!! Rant required!

Oh bless him - he's not ALL bad.

When pregnant with DD1 and suffering from placenta praevia, I rushed to the hospital with bleeding. Arrived with my notes and a book, bag not yet packed. I didn't expect to be kept in.

DH went home with a list of things to bring in next say. I had forgotten to put pants on the list, so I didn't get any! He had thought to put in nice hand cream (which also wasn't on the list), but not pants

He also left my mum to bring in the bag as he was tired? Really

And don't get me started on when I convinced the hospital that I was not waiting another 6 days grace an ELCS a, but an EMCS was appropriate, I had to get my mum hammering on the bathroom door to get his arse in gear to get to the hospital.

DH NEVER contributes (in any way) to get the 3 DC ready when we are going out, he considers he merely needs to get out of bed, complete his own ablutions and leave the house......

I'm often accused of being too quick on the ltb threads but here I think yabu.

He brought you coffee. That was really sweet! So what if ds1 was a little late for school whilst his dbro was in hospital. Surely that's a good reason?

If I unexpectedly had to get me & a 5yo up and out for hospital and school I'd have taken longer than your dp!

Yanbu. I get 3 of my 4 dcs out the door in 30 minutes or less, includes breakfast (often eggs), dressing, hair and teeth and one is 2!!

perhaps 30 minutes is asking a bit much, but ffs... less than 45...

actually, I have got two children up, dressed, fed, packed lunch, drink in car, and out the house on the way to school in 35 minutes... as I fucking overslept

Mine is the same although wouldn't have thought to bring snacks though would've taken a good 25 mins brewing himself a coffee to bring along for the journey in his thermos mug

I don't know if its pregnancy hormones but I'm getting more and more stabby every time I have to spoon feed him something!

Hope your day, and ds, have improved :)

Massive generalisation coming up here, but I think it's a bit of a male one-track mind thing. Some men find it near-impossible to get out of their routine or to think laterally about changing that routine to the minimum possible to get out of the house. I can remember once being late for something and being delayed further by DS painstakingly tying his tie and combing his hair. He was absolutely outraged by my suggestion that he could do all that in the car, and just couldn't assimilate the idea that's what traffic lights are for.

I get 4 under 8 out of the house every morning in 45 minutes because mornings are rubbish, so I avoid them as much as possible. When DH is around, not only do we have to get-up 20 minutes earlier, but everything takes longer and, even though he helps, he doesn't, IYKWIM.

yanbu

My DH has all six dc ready and out of the house within half an hour every day, if pushed he can do it in 15 mins (but only if he skips bringing me breakfast and coffee in bed which he doesn't like not doing)

Glad your ds2 is on the mend now

Oh and why didn't you get any pastries when he and ds1 did? That makes him even more unreasonable!

i'd have stabbed him with one of the handy needles that are always lying around in hospitals. in the eyeball, possibly, as a night on the kids ward is HELL!

Think it might be a man thing. DP has absolutely no sense of urgency and will meander about getting ready as I jump from foot to foot silently screaming as he fixes his hair puts his wallet, keys and change into pockets...hurry up!

I don't think it is a man thing. My DH had driven his way home through rush hour traffic when I phoned him to say our DD was being ambulanced to hospital. He turned round and drove back the way he had just come (A & E is just round the corner from his work- our house about 30 mins away)and made it back in about 45 mins (and some of that time was looking for a parking space)

In your situation he would have been frantic with worry and probably phoning me at about 6.30 in the morning to ask how things were and did I need anything.

YANBU and I think defenestration is a suitable punishment- how many floors do you have? A loft window would be in order if you have one.

Yes. It's our penises that cause it you know :)

One thing I don't understand - why didn't you get a pastry with your coffee? Seems a little unfair...

OP - some of the things DP has done....

Started counting out 10p's to put in the meter at maternity car park whilst I was wailing and on my knees.

Stopped to put air in tyres and fill water when we were late for flight to get to sis's wedding. The golden boy fell out of favour here with my mum who was goading him for the whole journey asking if he wanted to stop for wholely inappropriate things like a haircut and shave.

Achieved these two things in FIVE hours whilst I took children to soft play hell.

1. shopping (list provided)
2. cut toe nails

....!

But for the love of god he offsets it. He is patient and kind and a brilliant father.

This is all we can do to keep ourselves sane op.

Glad DS is ok OP. I'd have been pretty pissed off TBH.

I was in hospital for 4 nights after an emergency c-section with DC2. DH walked the 15 mins from our house, with DC1, to bring me breakfast (food vile) and for DC1 to see me and baby, before continuing his walk to get DC1 to nursery. Nursery started at 9am and DC1 was two. His having a penis didn't cause him to be disorganised or selfish.