give it to me - am I selfish to sell my grandmothers prized collection to raise money for a deposit

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Nc. I inherited my grandmothers priced collection of plates. She loved them but since I have them they have just sat INA box and got in the way. Can't display any of them even if I wanted to as live in a cramped flat. I know she wanted me to look after them but they are fragile and could easily break as I've had to move regularly with dodgy landlords. Some of them are quite valuable.

Aibu to sell most of them to raise money for a deposit? I've fallen in love with a house that I might be able to afford if I sell them. I know it would of broken her heart but it just seems silly to have them sat in the airing cupboard doing nothing for me. I don't particularly like most of them, but would like too keep two of them ,(collection is 59,).

Give it to me honestly

Thank you

As others have said, I would sell the plates. Cherish your memories of your grandmother & let someone who does enjoy collectible plates cherish them.

Sell them ,they are yours to do whatever you want with them .

YANBU. Keeping 2 and selling the rest sounds perfect - and good luck with the house purchase!

Wow. But the poster who wanted a medal sold to help her was torn apart.

Sell op!!

Sell them. You could keep them and pass them on to any future DC of yours but somewhere along the line they will get sold, dumped or broken anyway.
IL's keep banging on about old belongings of theirs that will be passed down to DH. He keeps quiet, but will not be giving any of it houseroom. We'll either hire a big skip or flog anything valuable.
Maybe a contribution to a fitting charity from the proceeds would ease your conscience.

Sell them. I can't see any point in keeping them in a cupboard and sure your grandmother would like to think she'd helped you financially. They'll probably go to a collector who'll really appreciate and enjoy them.

Sell them!

Wouldn't it be better to sell them to someone who will love and treasure them then keep them locked away with the possibility of being broken?

Thanks ladies, yes they are valuable - I've had someone from highly regarded auction house value them. Won't be going on ebay!

She said nothing to me about not selling them, my mother inherited them first and did nothing with them. I guess I'm just feeling guilty as my mum never sold them for the years she had them and that they were all bought as birthday presents and to remember special occasions. I will for sure keep the one that celebrates my birthday and my mums birthday. Just feeling uneasy to be the one that sells them off.

RupertsGirlGroom Nah, the medal poster wanted her DM to sell the medal her DGF left to her DM. Her DM didn't want to sell it. Two totally different scenarios.

The difference between the plates and the medal as I remember was that the OP owns the plates. The previous poster wanted to sell her mother's medal, left to her mother by her grandfather, against her mother's wishes. Different situation entirely. (Unless I have misremembered)

RupertsGirlGroom That OP wanted someone else, her mum, who had been given them to sel. They were never hers in the first placel. The consensus was once they were OPs she could do what she wanted but the medal was her mother's and had a lot of meaning. Totally different scenarios: these are OPs, she has the right and should sell them.

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Posted too soon! Sell them OP, I think the idea of keeping two is nice if you want to.

Yep keep the ones that mean something to do, and flog the rest. You'll have a lovely home to remember her by. You could also put a bit of the money towards some sort of keepsake that you will always look at and remember her by?

I would sell but keep one or two that mean the most and maybe display them to reduce any guilty pangs

The medal was earned by bravery and personal sacrifice. A collection of objects is a collection of objects. It's sad for objects to be kept hidden away out of duty, that has little value and none of the joy that the original owner had.

Keep what you like as your memento, and make another collector happy.

I think the medal case was different also because it was a VC! A box of plates doesn't come close imo. I'd sell them op.

Sell them and keep just one you could display.
'Guilt' inheritance is responsible for a lot of household clutter; I have a loft full.

I'm sure your gran would want the best for you and if it means selling the plates (and keeping a few) then do it.

I am definitely of the mind set of "use it now" or give it away (or sell) to someone who would appreciate it.

Yes, the medal wasn't hers......but loads of posters were saying they hoped the mother left them to the local cat rescue home in her will to spite her, and going on about family heirlooms that they would never sell no matter how desperate and told she didn't deserve the medal if she intended to sell.
Seems odd that now posters are falling over themselves telling op to sell, desdpite op saying it would have broken her dgs heart. The medal poster didn't think her grandad weoulkd mind at all!

Yes, but those posters were largely saying that because they thought the OP extremely entitled to be trying to convince her mum who didn't want to sell and that it would spite that OP if her mum didn't eave them to her to sell in the end. The sentiment was because OP couldn't 'get' why her mum found the medal so sentimental and callously said it was a 'bit of metal' nothing more- people were quick to correct that the medal was well earned and the OP was out of order for trying to push the idea of selling on her mum who cherished it.

Plus since the OP in regards to the medals had no idea what the medal even meant so who said she'd be in the know about what her grandfather wanted? She didn't even know why he had it! His daughter, however, did and owned it and wanted to keep it.

i would sell them.

It doesn't seem odd at all to me. Her grandmother is no longer here, therefore the plates are no longer of any use to her.
Sell them OP (maybe keep one or two to remember your grandma).