On Mother's Day? Weird title! I'm extremely new but was guided here by a friend.
BG: have dated my DH for 5 years, married two years later. My relationship with PIL was okay, went to family outings, saw them regularly and was friendly enough but when I had our first DC back in December MIL became particularly over bearing as the story goes.
Some examples I had asked that no one come to the hospital the first day so that I could recover from my C section and so that DH/I could bond with DC, and also for me to get the hang of BFing MIL completely ignored that and came up to the hospital straight after DC was born, I was in a private room so they rang ahead to ask if MrsSandraDee's DH's mother could come up. I told DH to tell her no, that she was already told no so he went to talk to her and eventually. Once we finally got home MIL wanted to come up that day, I said no I was exhausted and just wanted to sleep as DC had latch problems and I had hardly slept, a few minutes later I get a call from FIL saying that "We're going to come up and see DC." In my shocked and tired state I agreed and quickly hung up, when they came I admit I was childish and brought DC upstairs for a feed and a nap because I felt forced into the visit. So basically from that MIL has been stepping over boundaries for me, calling herself mommy and FIL daddy, not respecting my parenting choices and basically saying she'll do what she wants with DC, posting pictures on Facebook without asking and labelling DC as hers, coming to the house without calling ahead and staying for hours on end, assuming she'll be babysitting and crying/running to DH/FIL when I've told her she won't be. Demanding I express so she can have alone time with DC, crying to DH that I'm keeping her away from DC, that I'm an evil bitch ect DH is completely useless as he's a mommys boy. So we see them once a week which is more than enough for me and I think is fair since DH never saw his grandparents every week.
So as you can see bad blood and something's are just petty and yes I understand grandparents being excited but I really don't trust PILs now so when my first Mother's Day rolled around with DC I thought it was sweet that DH let me sleep in and had presents and such. Later on Facebook MIL had posted a photo with DH, BIL and DC gushing about how great her Mother's Day was with the "3 most important men in her life her sons"...I was furious and confronted DH, who for a good hour lied to me about bringing DC to MIL while I was sleeping before finally admitting he had. I'm gutted because it was my first Mother's Day with DC even with DC being a baby it felt special to me and the other fact that DH knew after everything that has went on with his parents still went behind my back to make her happy.
Completely ready to be told I'm BU and precious but I'd still like to know the majority 