To think that I must be a very lax parent?

[ImNameyChangey]

DH has a load of wooden pallets in the garden...he'd piled them up to use later in the week on a project.

He realised as he piled them that DD aged 7 would definitely climb up the pile so he took care to make it into a safe pile...sturdy and solid...not wobbly...then he put a bag of sand at the base for her to jump off onto.

We never invited her to climb on it...we just knew she would. Sure enough later on I saw that she'd discovered it and was climbing up and jumping off...it's not a high pile...comes up to her waist tops.

Anyway...looking out of the window I head the next door neighbour calling out over the fence "Ooh don't do that! Don't climb up on that! Ooh you'll get splinters!"

So I called out "it's fine...she's ok" and the neighbour said "Oooh I don't know how you cope!"

So I said "What do you mean?" (even though I knew what she meant)

And she said "Well...she's a rogue! Always climbing!"

So I said "And? She's not made of glass...she's ok....Carry on DD!"

WIBU? AIBU to let her do things like that?

[lunalelle]

You're not lax, you're sensible. I mean, I would have a net around a trampoline, just because I used to trampoline and we had two people break their arms by falling off in one session - this was before nets were commonplace! But I was brought up in a farming community in a rural area and we did all sorts of stuff. Better than watching TV.

If anything, it's good that you can predict her movements :)

[ProvisionallyAnxious]

This is a really fascinating read, though quite lengthy: www.theatlantic.com/features/archive/2014/03/hey-parents-leave-those-kids-alone/358631/