To think if a child was sexually abused, the accused would be arrested and investigated?

[LovelyBath]

As above, Apparently the police 'don't think there is a victim'?

I'm not sure what to think. I guess I need to try not to get drawn into it as i don't know enough. The mum is posting on facebook about it and wants me to join in campaigning about it. She is contacting the papers MP etc. I said it might not be in the best interests of the child to be public. Also she is changing the little girl's name to her middle name apparently due to her wanting to not be the same person as before? It's a bit strange. She is too young to be doing the things her mum seems to think I feel. Maybe I should have posted this elsewhere I wasn't sure where it would fit tbh. Haven't been on MN in ages. Relationships? Parenting? Where was the other thread?

steppemum the mum says in this case he took photos but they refused to search him or something. Something I haven't mentioned is that they were breaking up at the time. Before the allegations.

Contacting MP can be helpful. But courting the media, by inviting the publicity of papers, can be starting/ courting danger, that you may not be able to control, and just might regret.

i used to volunteer for mosac..they offer lots of different support for mum and child. i guess as you said about them you have seen their website? i have also heard many times that an abuser gets unsupervised contact.

Yes Chaise I won't regret it though as it isn't me or my child. I'm not going to get involved in that though. Yes i sent her the link to the MOSAC website

I would back off. Sounds like the mum is playing a dangerous game. Putting this in the press and changing the name of the child is not normal behavior and is not in the best interests of the child.

I may be wrong op, but it sounds as though you aren't 100% convinced this happened. In which case I would back off as much as you can. Either you're wrong and your friends needs full support, or you are correct and its a shit storm waiting to happen. especially if she has gone to the media, although I am not sure they will report anything.

You know her better than us, the report says it could have happened. You are more likely to have an idea whether she would lie about this.

Yes bath, I got that whilst you were the OP, you weren't the actual mum. But my advice to her, through you, remains.

Thanks for your replies. It has been helpful. I am starting to see that it is not the child who is at the centre of this or whose interests are at heart. Thanks again