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Selling kids old toys - Who gets the money?

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CalicoBlue · 04/05/2015 20:17

Having a clear out, I sold some of my teenage kids old toddler toys. DS saw me sell a collection he had for £80, he wanted the money. It made me think, I had thought of it as my clearout, but he saw it as me selling his toys and keeping the money. I bought most of them anyway. So I gave him half. AIBU?

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BullshitS70 · 04/05/2015 20:18

nah, that's fair

londonrach · 04/05/2015 20:19

Depends. Where the gifts? Id be tempted to say more his than yours ...sorry

ImNameyChangey · 04/05/2015 20:19

I'm afraid that I think he should get it all! They're his toys...you gave them as gifts.

PHANTOMnamechanger · 04/05/2015 20:20

give him the lot - toys/junk etc and tell him to sort it, ebay it, pack it and post it himself!

Or tell him that your half of the money is perfectly fair for the storage all these years, and your 'processing' fees.

msgrinch · 04/05/2015 20:20

You should give him the full amount. They were his from the moment you gave them to him.

ScOffasDyke · 04/05/2015 20:20

You put the effort in to sell them, so half each is fair

lollilou · 04/05/2015 20:22

If I sell the kids toys they get half. Seems fair to me.

Xmasbaby11 · 04/05/2015 20:22

I think you were generous. It wouldn't occur to me to give them half, since the toys were so old.

However, if they were at an age where they wanted to earn money, I might say they could sell the toys themselves and keep all the money.

PurpleSwift · 04/05/2015 20:22

When I've done this I put it all back into LO savings but he is still very young.

If you went to the effort of selling then I do think you should keep some, yes. Tell him to sell them himself if he wants ££, somehow I doubt it'd happen!

shewept · 04/05/2015 20:23

Technically, its his money. There were gifts after all.

However, since you have stored them in your house consider the £40 as storage fees Grin

jendot2 · 04/05/2015 20:23

I give the kids the money, they are their toys.

Grapejuicerocks · 04/05/2015 20:24

When they were young I kept it all. Once they were old enough to question it, they got the money. After all it belongs to them.

slithytove · 04/05/2015 20:25

His money.

HeadfirstForHalos · 04/05/2015 20:25

The money is his, they were his toys.

slithytove · 04/05/2015 20:26

And wrong to sell without permission given his age.

wheresthelight · 04/05/2015 20:28

dd isn't yet 2 but anything of hers I sell on is done so to raise funds for the next level of toys or next size of clothes.

they are his things that are being sold so he should receive all they money

thatstoast · 04/05/2015 20:28

Half seems fair. Tell him you'l use the other half to pay the rent/mortgage on the house he lives in. I might be turning into my dad...Grin

Ratherworriedmum · 04/05/2015 20:29

If they were given to him as a gift, I think they are his to sell. Things like outgrown clothes/sports kit that I've dutifully provided my school with in the course of being their parent, (like the karate outfit that only got worn for a few weeks) I think are mine to sell and add to household funds.

Ratherworriedmum · 04/05/2015 20:30

School should read kids! No idea what's got into autocorrect tonight.

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CalicoBlue · 04/05/2015 20:31

thatstoast that is excatly what DH says who thinks I should keep all the money.

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LittleMissRayofHope · 04/05/2015 20:32

Completely echo Wheresthelight.

I sell all DD's old clothes and toys and keep track of the money raised and it is then used to buy next stage toys or next size clothes. Am now doing the same with DS.

Have to say though, that I don't see every toy/clothing/book that I have bought her since birth a gift. I bought them for her to use, not to own.... So it probably wouldn't occur to me to give her the cash.
Shall see what happens when we get to teenage years!!

Maryz · 04/05/2015 20:34

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TheMagnificientFour · 04/05/2015 20:35

If I sell the toys, the money goes to me. That money is then usually used to buy stuff for the dcs anyway.

If a teenager was in so dire need for money, then they can organise to sell some of their stuff (and then I have no issue with them keeping the money).
Waiting for someone else to do all the work and then ask for the money ConfusedHmm, nope not in my house.

Maryz · 04/05/2015 20:35

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purplemeggie · 04/05/2015 20:35

I don't necessarily think that a child's toys belong exclusively to them. If you have more than one dc, you would expect to pass at least some toys down from one child to the next, wouldn't you - so then who do they belong to? Also, many parents keep toys for their grandchildren...

....I don't think yabu for selling unused toys and keeping the money, but sharing the proceeds with your ds also sounds fair and reasonable.